"Yes. No! Maybe." Sorry...went to a McNulty place. What? I can't be the only one who wants to play Reluctant Witness with Bushy Top. I'll be safe, too. I don't have a liquor cabinet or credit cards. (With a dude like Jimmy, "using protection" takes on several dimensions. I know that. But I'd still hit it.)
You'll fight, and you'll shag, and you'll hate each other till it makes you quiver, but you'll never be friends.
Spike ,'Sleeper'
Spike's Bitches 45: That sure as hell wasn't in the brochure.
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
erikaj - May 19, 2010 8:18:15 am PDT #19871 of 30000
"already on the kiss-cam with Karl Marx"-
hippocampus - May 19, 2010 8:22:51 am PDT #19872 of 30000
not your mom's socks.
safety~ma Fay - you're in our thoughts here.
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Shir - May 19, 2010 8:29:29 am PDT #19873 of 30000
"And that's why God Almighty gave us fire insurance and the public defender".
Y'all, I sure wouldn't call them vanilla.
You betcha.
The number of things I thought were kinky due to the lack of their representation in mainstream media, from biting to vibrators and handcuffs... But Buffistas addressed my ignorance. With pictures. And diagrams. And words. And details. And alas, without any retcon pills for some of the new information.
Steph L. - May 19, 2010 8:33:59 am PDT #19874 of 30000
this mess was yours / now your mess is mine
Y'all, I sure wouldn't call them vanilla.
You betcha.
Wait. Are you agreeing that handcuffs *are* kinky, or they're NOT?
Vortex - May 19, 2010 8:39:10 am PDT #19875 of 30000
"Cry havoc and let slip the boobs of war!" -- Miracleman
I think that handcuffs are adventurous, not kinky. They are not the "norm" or vanilla, but their use is common enough that it's almost acceptable.
It's like how my kink friend J calls me "french vanilla" - vanilla, but with a kick ;)
Steph L. - May 19, 2010 8:40:08 am PDT #19876 of 30000
this mess was yours / now your mess is mine
I think that handcuffs are adventurous, not kinky.
Hee! I like that distinction.
(Metal hurts. Do not want.)
Vortex - May 19, 2010 8:41:35 am PDT #19877 of 30000
"Cry havoc and let slip the boobs of war!" -- Miracleman
(Metal hurts. Do not want.)
cloth or velvet lines helps with that. Although, frankly, if your partner really knows what they're doing, you'll still bruise a little.
Steph L. - May 19, 2010 8:44:32 am PDT #19878 of 30000
this mess was yours / now your mess is mine
(Metal hurts. Do not want.)
cloth or velvet lines helps with that.
I figure there's enough rope in the world. Most of it in our house. Failing that, leather cuffs are quick and not nerve-pinchy painful.
Shir - May 19, 2010 8:44:56 am PDT #19879 of 30000
"And that's why God Almighty gave us fire insurance and the public defender".
Wait. Are you agreeing that handcuffs *are* kinky, or they're NOT?
Not really, not anymore.
The kink is in the eye of the beholder, and handcuffs can have legitimate roles in a sexual relationship. Like tying your partner to the bed so he/she won't run away. Or... decorative accessories. Yes, a decorative accessory. New way to keep in mind your grocery list!
OTOH, maybe I'm so serene about it since I've been NGA for like, eternity.
Edit:
I think that handcuffs are adventurous, not kinky.
Echoing that like nobody's business.
Steph L. - May 19, 2010 8:47:45 am PDT #19880 of 30000
this mess was yours / now your mess is mine
handcuffs can have legitimate roles in a sexual relationship.
So...the determinant of whether something is kinky is if it does NOT have a legitimate role in a sexual relationship?
How do you determine "legitimate"?
Because I'd say *everything* The Boy and I use is legitimate, simply by dint of the fact that it gets us off. But just because I think that, say, pony gear is legitimate by that definition does NOT mean that it's not kinky.