Wow. Black out drunk or serious mental health problems, sj?

Black out drunk. She seems to function well M-F, but Friday night she drinks heavily, gets very loud, and mostly on Saturdays she is out of control. This also coincides with the fact that she has custody of her teenage daughter on the weekends, who usually has friends over. It really is a mess.

She is desperate that we don't call the police or landlord when these things happen, but we don't know exactly how to explain to her that we are not comfortable physically confronting her when she is obviously not in control.

Not notifying the proper authorities about her being out of control is a great way to protect her from the consequences of her addictive behavior. Protecting her from the consequences of her behavior will only prolong the amount of time it takes her to hit bottom and get help.

She is desperate that we don't call the police or landlord when these things happen, but we don't know exactly how to explain to her that we are not comfortable physically confronting her when she is obviously not in control.

For God's sake don't let that stop you from making the calls, sj. I'd call faster, knowing that, frankly.

If she does this every weekend, she deserves to have the authorities called. Why does she get to 'escape' the world, and cause you tension, stress, anxiety? And throw a kid in the mix? Ya, that's all kinds of bad.

What WindSparrow said. Also, she's doing this when her teenage daughter is there? How is this affecting her kid? This could cause her to lose custody, which is probably another reason she's desperate that the authorities don't find out about her behavior.

I know that I shouldn't let that stop me from calling the cops, and if I honestly feel in danger or as in the past I felt her daughter was in danger, believe me I will. However, the pattern seems to be emerging that she is just going to fucking scream her head off until she passes out. I really do wish there was something I could do for her daughter, but I have met the dad, and sadly he doesn't seem any better. She'll be an adult in a couple of years and it is my sincere hope that she takes that opportunity to get the hell out and never look back.

the pattern seems to be emerging that she is just going to fucking scream her head off until she passes out

That is still not something you should have to be subjected to. I don't want you to feel bad about not calling if you don't want to call, you are no more responsible for visiting consequences upon her than you are for keeping her free of consequences, but you should never feel like you shouldn't call if you want to, and that can be for a range of reasons, from you are in immediate danger to she's too freaking loud. {{sj}}

I understand feeling sorry for her, sj, but don't let your big heart stop you from calling the police or the landlord in those situations.

Your quality of life is suffering from that woman's addictions and it's not helping her or her daughter to try to ignore it. Especially if she gets out of control and scares you.

WS, ~t, and Cash are all very wise.

I didn't sleep well last night so I slept very late. I have a few things to do, and then I'll be heading over to amyth's to watch the red carpet.

Anyone heard from Barb about Mooshu?

She said her daughter told her what happened yesterday, and she remembers none of it.

Ugh, gross.

I'd tell her that you will indeed call the landlord if there are noise issues and you will call the police if it sounds like violence is happening. Don't let her suck you into her alcoholic head games.

With alcoholics, you HAVE to set boundaries and stick to them. Otherwise you will continue to be subjected to destructive behavior, manipulation, and lies. It's unfortunate that you have been put in this position, but believe me, she doesn't care that she's done so, and will not act in any regard or with any respect for your feelings.

Ignoring this problem will most definitely not make it go away, unfortunately.