but I can't get too rude because it does come out of a place of love.
Some of the worst things that have happened to me have been done by people with good intentions.
You were very nearly devoured by a giant demon snake. The words 'let that be a lesson' are a tad redundant at this juncture.
Giles ,'Selfless'
Spike's Bitches 45: That sure as hell wasn't in the brochure.
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Ginger - Nov 19, 2009 9:41:15 am PST #1050 of 30000
"It didn't taste good. It tasted soooo horrible. It tasted like....a vodka martini." - Matilda
Aims - Nov 19, 2009 9:42:07 am PST #1051 of 30000
Shit's all sorts of different now.
So if she asks you, Aims, if her DH spoke to you will you lie?
In all honesty? I'd probably hedge. This is not the first time that he has called me to say, "Could you call J? She's feeling kind of lonely right now." or "Hey - can you include J in that other thing you're doing with other people?"
I get what he's after, but the more I think about it, the more I'm tired of being put in the place of Social Director for his wife and I'm getting kind of mad about it. There might need to be a Discussion soon about this.
Shir - Nov 19, 2009 9:42:26 am PST #1052 of 30000
"And that's why God Almighty gave us fire insurance and the public defender".
Some of the worst things that have happened to me have been done by people with good intentions.
THAT.
Aims - Nov 19, 2009 9:43:10 am PST #1053 of 30000
Shit's all sorts of different now.
Some of the worst things that have happened to me have been done by people with good intentions.
Hells yeah. But good things that have happened also had good intentions.
Burrell - Nov 19, 2009 9:44:46 am PST #1054 of 30000
Why did Darth Vader cross the road? To get to the Dark Side!
Then Hubs emailed me saying, "Thanks. I really appreciate it. She called and asked me if I talked to you I said no."
FWIW (which probably isn't much, but oh well) I think the person he's lying to is himself. If she called and asked him directly, she totally knows he called you and was just seeking confirmation.
§ ita § - Nov 19, 2009 9:48:38 am PST #1055 of 30000
Well not canonically, no, but this is transformative fiction.
I know that you can't be 100% honest with anyone no matter how much (or because) you love them. Getting you, Aims, into the lie is not good friendery or husbandry.
Aims - Nov 19, 2009 9:49:57 am PST #1056 of 30000
Shit's all sorts of different now.
Getting you, Aims, into the lie is not good friendery or husbandry.
True that. And you are all correct in that she totally gleaned on to the fact that he called me.
Seska (the Watcher-in-Training) - Nov 19, 2009 9:51:17 am PST #1057 of 30000
"We're all stories, in the end. Just make it a good one, eh?"
If you're doing something and feeling the need the apologize for it everyday, something's wrong.
Examples, Shir? (I'm not as widely read in general sociology as I should be. I'd like to explore this idea further, if you have papers or similar that you find apologetic.)
Apropos of nothing, happy fifth anniversary to the Civil Partnerships Act in the UK. (And come August, our turn!)
Liese S. - Nov 19, 2009 10:04:22 am PST #1058 of 30000
"Faded like the lilac, he thought."
Yeah, I always feel like I need to be explicit with the "this never happened" person. Like, you need to know I'm not going to cover for you if it comes up directly. I just don't like being the third party in these things. Talk to each other! Fixer guy is not being helpful ultimately, because her friends will start to feel like you're feeling, Aims, and will react to her because of it and she'll have no idea why, when it's his actions they're resenting.
sj - Nov 19, 2009 10:05:19 am PST #1059 of 30000
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."
TCG just came home from having his stitches out, and he is doing better.