So if she asks you, Aims, if her DH spoke to you will you lie?
In all honesty? I'd probably hedge. This is not the first time that he has called me to say, "Could you call J? She's feeling kind of lonely right now." or "Hey - can you include J in that other thing you're doing with other people?"
I get what he's after, but the more I think about it, the more I'm tired of being put in the place of Social Director for his wife and I'm getting kind of mad about it. There might need to be a Discussion soon about this.
Some of the worst things that have happened to me have been done by people with good intentions.
Hells yeah. But good things that have happened also had good intentions.
Then Hubs emailed me saying, "Thanks. I really appreciate it. She called and asked me if I talked to you I said no."
FWIW (which probably isn't much, but oh well) I think the person he's lying to is himself. If she called and asked him directly, she totally knows he called you and was just seeking confirmation.
I know that you can't be 100% honest with anyone no matter how much (or because) you love them. Getting you, Aims, into the lie is not good friendery or husbandry.
Getting you, Aims, into the lie is not good friendery or husbandry.
True that. And you are all correct in that she totally gleaned on to the fact that he called me.
If you're doing something and feeling the need the apologize for it everyday, something's wrong.
Examples, Shir? (I'm not as widely read in general sociology as I should be. I'd like to explore this idea further, if you have papers or similar that you find apologetic.)
Apropos of nothing, happy fifth anniversary to the Civil Partnerships Act in the UK. (And come August, our turn!)
Yeah, I always feel like I need to be explicit with the "this never happened" person. Like, you need to know I'm not going to cover for you if it comes up directly. I just don't like being the third party in these things. Talk to each other! Fixer guy is not being helpful ultimately, because her friends will start to feel like you're feeling, Aims, and will react to her because of it and she'll have no idea why, when it's his actions they're resenting.
TCG just came home from having his stitches out, and he is doing better.
Yet another flyby as I skim a bunch of posts, then know I have to get back to work. {{y'all}}
DH wouldn't have called Aims on my behalf because if I heard she was going to the midnight show I would call and let her know I would see her there, if there was a chance of me being awake at midnight, and if I had any interest in seeing the movie. Then again if I was moaning to DH that I wanted to go to the show with Aims he would tell me to pick up the damn phone and call her.
