I sense we are going to be taking opposite views on the awesomeness or otherwise of sociology for a long, long time.

I don't think so, Seska. I think I just didn't wrote it very clearly.

I love sociology (and anthropology), very very much, and feel like it has a lot to contribute to the understanding of human beings.

With that being said, I dislike sociologists' inferiority complex about their position in the field of social sciences. If you're doing something and feeling the need the apologize for it everyday, something's wrong.

Which relating to.

I had a very unpleasant surprise from one of my dearest friends. She has every right to feel so, but it was still surprising, to me. We tried to schedule a dinner/lunch in Jerusalem for 2-3 weeks now, but we're both on hectic schedules. Then we said we'll see how the weekend will work. I gave her a call about an hour ago, asking about tomorrow's afternoon. She happily agreed, but when I told her it'll be Sabbath and there won't be public transportation, and asked her if she won't mind to drive another 10 minutes and pick me up, she recoiled and changed her mind.

I know it's not because of me, but the place I live in. I know she has every right to feel this way about driving the extra 10 minutes here. But there's a chance I won't be seeing her tomorrow (unless I'll be able to convince my dad to pick me up), and God knows when, because I have to live here for the time being.

And that sucks, and hurts.

I think erika nailed it with this:

But maybe she was just bitching and hubs took "Handyman" a bit too literally?

It's weird that he called you. What did she say when you suddenly called and asked her to go tonight?

What did she say when you suddenly called and asked her to go tonight?

Well, I texted her and said "Take a nap and be at the Q16 at 11:00 tonight or Taylor Laurent gets it. Your ticket has already been purchased." She texted back "LOL".

Then Hubs emailed me saying, "Thanks. I really appreciate it. She called and asked me if I talked to you I said no."

He for sure takes the "Handyman" thing too far, but I can't get too rude because it does come out of a place of love. However, he will be coming over on Saturday to lift heavy furniture and put it where I tell him.

I can't get too rude because it does come out of a place of love

But he lied to her!

I know I'm way too simplistic about these things, but it's such a patronising move.

And that sucks, and hurts.

I'm sorry, Shir. It does suck.

java, insent.

Unrelated to any of the above: iwillnotstartaflamewariwillnotstartaflamewariwillnotstartaflamewar

Then Hubs emailed me saying, "Thanks. I really appreciate it. She called and asked me if I talked to you I said no."

you should "accidentally" forward that to her. And obviously, the wife knew something was up if she asked the husband if he had talked to you.

And obviously, the wife knew something was up if she asked the husband if he had talked to you.

Yep.

it's such a patronising move.

And yep.

I could see that, maybe he's Fixer Guy, right? And maybe she got a little spun out, like, "Does Aimee hold it against me for that day my deodorant stopped working? Maybe it's my breath..." And instead of listening, or telling her how fun she is, he thinks he's Making It Okay. But I'm embarrassed for both of them. I hope you have fun anyway, though.

But he lied to her!

I know, and while I have an issue with that, I know that sometimes I lie to Joe about some things, too and what he lies to his wife about is not my business nor my marriage, so I try to look at his intentions instead of the whole picture when it comes to stuff like this.

So if she asks you, Aims, if her DH spoke to you will you lie?