you all are doing NOTHING to make me re-think this whole, making an effort to find a mate thing. I would seriously go on strike for anything a mate wanted if there wasn't help with housework.
This is my boat. They're part of my crew. No one's getting left. Best you get used to that.
Mal ,'Ariel'
Natter 64: Yes, we still need you
Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.
msbelle - Sep 21, 2009 2:14:29 pm PDT #10085 of 30001
I remember the crazy days. 500 posts an hour. Nubmer! Natgbsb
Trudy Booth - Sep 21, 2009 2:14:31 pm PDT #10086 of 30001
Greece's financial crisis threatens to take down all of Western civilization - a civilization they themselves founded. A rather tragic irony - which is something they also invented. - Jon Stewart
Oh ita, that's just hellish. I'm so sorry.
Glamcookie - Sep 21, 2009 2:24:00 pm PDT #10087 of 30001
I know my own heart and understand my fellow man. But I am made unlike anyone I have ever met. I dare to say I am like no one in the whole world. - Anne Lister
I'm so sorry about your cousin, ita. How awful.
Sophia Brooks - Sep 21, 2009 2:28:56 pm PDT #10088 of 30001
Cats to become a rabbit should gather immediately now here
I am so sorry, ita
Sheryl - Sep 21, 2009 2:33:26 pm PDT #10089 of 30001
Fandom means never having to say "But where would I wear that?"
Timelies all!
Happy Birthday Sophia!
I'm sorry about your cousin, ita.
JZ - Sep 21, 2009 2:36:29 pm PDT #10090 of 30001
See? I gave everybody here an opportunity to tell me what a bad person I am and nobody did, because I fuckin' rule.
I am so sorry, ita. Much, much ~ma to your cousin, and her mother, and all the family. Words are so inadequate; all I have are helpless good thoughts for all of you.
And because Sophia is around but boisterousness is totally inappropriate in a post right after ita's news, I just want to say that I am so very glad that you were born and I know you.
And you, too, smonster. Matilda still loves to watch your Prom video and is working on her belly dancing hand movements.
tommyrot - Sep 21, 2009 2:37:03 pm PDT #10091 of 30001
Sir, it's not an offence to let your cat eat your bacon. Okay? And we don't arrest cats, I'm very sorry.
I'm so sorry, ita.
Amy - Sep 21, 2009 2:38:03 pm PDT #10092 of 30001
Because books.
Oh, I forgot birthdays. Happy birthdays to the birthday twins. I hope there's cake! The world's definitely a better place with the two of you in it.
Calli - Sep 21, 2009 2:39:36 pm PDT #10093 of 30001
I must obey the inscrutable exhortations of my soul—Calvin and Hobbs
I'm sorry, ita.
beth b - Sep 21, 2009 2:42:48 pm PDT #10094 of 30001
oh joy! Oh Rapture ! I have a brain!
you all are doing NOTHING to make me re-think this whole, making an effort to find a mate thing. I would seriously go on strike for anything a mate wanted if there wasn't help with housework.
I didn't marry Dh for his housekeeping skills. Nor did he marry me for mine. We both would have been disappointed. But it is an easy area for conflict. Any two people will have different standards of cleanliness - no matter how close they really are. In our house, mine are slightly higher, except in the kitchen where his standards are much higher. And we have different attitudes. I think I deserve a clean space, with less visual chaos - he barely notices the chaos - so he doesn't get it. There were discussions. And when circumstances change, discussions resume. In general, we have peace unless there is a stress. As far as I am concerned, DH doesn't have to do anything. However he can't complain either--because he is perfectly capable of cleaning. And if circumstances are unusual -- meaning guests or something needs to get done or I have a lot of extra work - he pitches in. When I worked full time - or more , he did more.
What I get form Dh is worth way more than housekeeping. He gets me more than the people I grew up with. And despite the fact that he doesn't seem to know the dishwasher is right next to the sink, I think he is absolutly wonderful. There is no one else I would rather spend time with.