he tried to lean in to give me a hug, started to fall over (because he was leaning on me, a small kid on crutches!) and saved his beer before saving me.

!!!!!

That should be a question on an "Are You a Douchnozzle" quiz.

7. A drink and a child (the latter on crutches) are both falling. Which do you catch first?

Connie, I'm sorry about your sister's cancer. My mom's was ovarian, and, while aggressive, it was also probably a different thing than uterine cancer. Much anti-cancer~ma to your sister in whatever treatment regimen she works with.

*(Did I equivocate enough? That's my favorite Buffista pastime -- making sure that statements are equivocated, because absolute statements are often [though not always (see what I did there?)] followed by a post where someone immediately provides proof/anecdata to the contrary.)

There's a reason my tag used to be "I await your inevitable well-crafted responses proving me wrong."

I probably need to learn to be more precise in my communication, but I really dislike how, too often, "precise" looks like "equivocation." And I hate equivocating.

Excellent use of parens, btw.

Connie, much -ma to your sister.

I don't really have the experience to comment on the douchenozzle parenting conversation. My dad died when I was a baby, and it hurt to be without him, but I was always comforted by people telling me what a good father he was.

I have a friend who is recently divorced. Just as his youngest graduated from college. He regrets waiting so long, because he is afraid that his daughter has no idea what a healthy relationship looks like ( his son , the younger one seems more perceptive.)

and ma~~ to your sister, connie

but I don't know how she'd feel about my talking about it with my circle.

There's always "I have a friend who had chemo and I can ask her if she has any suggestions."

Ha, ya Calli. I'm over it. Forgive, but not forget. Life is too short to hold a grudge.

For Erin (and others who need it): [link]

it just helped me past a moment of "I am a leaf on the wind..." here at work, so I thought I would share.

Thanks mmnis, I've sent it along to a few people today

Connie, lots of ~ma to your sister. Fuck cancer.

Omnis, I'm glad your "leaf on the wind" moment wasn't followed by a horizontal pile-driver rock.

Love y'all. Off to work, now.