I feel your financial pain, smonster. We are shelling out a ton of money to our therapist (2x/week for DH and once/month for both together) and it's absolutely worth every penny, but I didn't budget for it before upping the appointments and only 3/4 of the fee counts toward our deductible, so those payments are coming out of our already pretty depleted savings. It makes me nervous not having the cushion, but not as nervous as not having the therapy.

But, now that I know the score I should be able to adjust the budget.

GC, WTF. It's a messed up world when weight obsession begins pre-natally.

So much this.

You shouldn't have to deal with that kind of projected fear. Things like 'don't drink like a fish or smoke like a stack' (though my mother did both...which could also explain some things...) make some but talking about obesity potentials where there is no obesity present? Yesh.

eta: for crazy grammar

Moving tomorrow. Don't know when I'll have internet connection again (best case: the day, but perhaps only on Sunday), so I just wanted to say I might go dark for the meanwhile.

I'm feeling better about it.

My parents surprised me and told me they bought me a TV to my room there (which will bring the number of TVs to 3, in a family of 4). I find it ridicules, unnecessary and potentially damage to my studies, and I wish they'd ask me first, but hey - a TV. Or, a bribe in the form of TV. Now I just need the bunch of DVDs to go along with it.

And a new blog post that some of you might help me to understand, here: [link]

Don't let the turkeys get you down, kiddo. (And that may be the most meaninglessly idiomatic fucking sentence ever. D'oh.) Ok, then, Be careful out there.

I'm feeling better about it.

That's good. I hope you can continue to find a kind of peace with the situation.

I think that I'm able to do this because the ceremony for me is about affirming the love and commitment between us more than it is about the legality of it

I totally support you and Drew getting married and am thrilled for you, but I do find myself disagreeing with this part. You aren't just having a commitment ceremony. You are doing that *AND* signing a legal contract that is recognized by the state of California, and all states, giving you specific rights and responsibilities. These rights would not be available to you if Drew were a woman or you were a man. You could still have the commitment ceremony, but you couldn't sign the contract and have it recognized.

Cass, I tried to acknowledge that in the next statement. My point was that that the emotional part is what the ceremony is about to me. The reason why we're having a wedding versus just continuing to live together, I mean, is primarily a personal, emotional one. Given some IRS history, it would actually be better in many ways, legally, for us to stay single for awhile. I have no disagreement that we are also signing a legal contract that should be available to all and isn't, nor do I disagree for a second that we will get many legal benefits alongside the drawback I mentioned above that are very much worth fighting for.

Just wanted to clarify. Not trying to sound defensive.

Personally, I say enjoy your privilege. Just acknowledge that you have one. I mean, I don't expect you not to climb stairs because I can't.(I know...not quite the same.But not quite not, either.) Just don't forget about me down here, you know?

Sorry to interrupt, but I don't know if omnis has seen this, and because he might not be ok bragging on himself.

Time lapse of his theater's new home [link]

Personally, I say enjoy your privilege. Just acknowledge that you have one. I mean, I don't expect you not to climb stairs because I can't.(I know...not quite the same.But not quite not, either.) Just don't forget about me down here, you know?

Was that directed at me specifically, Erika? I hope you all know that I do recognize that this is a privilege and know I would never forget about those who don't have it. Given my background (gay father, married lesbian cousin, bisexual myself but happened to fall in love with a man), I do care deeply and fight actively.

Okay, I am sounding defensive, and I'm so bone-weary right now that I'm sure I'm being way too sensitive. I'm going to take a break and come back after I'm processing things less personally. Not a flounce off. Love my Bitches.