Wesley: Perhaps the whole point of this experiment is hair. Gunn: I vote he's not in charge.

'The Cautionary Tale of Numero Cinco'


Spike's Bitches 44: It's about the rules having changed.  

[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.


Shir - Nov 04, 2009 9:39:12 am PST #29278 of 30000
"And that's why God Almighty gave us fire insurance and the public defender".

Moving tomorrow. Don't know when I'll have internet connection again (best case: the day, but perhaps only on Sunday), so I just wanted to say I might go dark for the meanwhile.

I'm feeling better about it.

My parents surprised me and told me they bought me a TV to my room there (which will bring the number of TVs to 3, in a family of 4). I find it ridicules, unnecessary and potentially damage to my studies, and I wish they'd ask me first, but hey - a TV. Or, a bribe in the form of TV. Now I just need the bunch of DVDs to go along with it.

And a new blog post that some of you might help me to understand, here: [link]


erikaj - Nov 04, 2009 10:06:39 am PST #29279 of 30000
Always Anti-fascist!

Don't let the turkeys get you down, kiddo. (And that may be the most meaninglessly idiomatic fucking sentence ever. D'oh.) Ok, then, Be careful out there.


smonster - Nov 04, 2009 10:26:33 am PST #29280 of 30000
We won’t stop until everyone is gay.

I'm feeling better about it.

That's good. I hope you can continue to find a kind of peace with the situation.


Cass - Nov 04, 2009 10:35:31 am PST #29281 of 30000
Bob's learned to live with tragedy, but he knows that this tragedy is one that won't ever leave him or get better.

I think that I'm able to do this because the ceremony for me is about affirming the love and commitment between us more than it is about the legality of it

I totally support you and Drew getting married and am thrilled for you, but I do find myself disagreeing with this part. You aren't just having a commitment ceremony. You are doing that *AND* signing a legal contract that is recognized by the state of California, and all states, giving you specific rights and responsibilities. These rights would not be available to you if Drew were a woman or you were a man. You could still have the commitment ceremony, but you couldn't sign the contract and have it recognized.


Pix - Nov 04, 2009 10:54:32 am PST #29282 of 30000
We're all getting played with, babe. -Weird Barbie

Cass, I tried to acknowledge that in the next statement. My point was that that the emotional part is what the ceremony is about to me. The reason why we're having a wedding versus just continuing to live together, I mean, is primarily a personal, emotional one. Given some IRS history, it would actually be better in many ways, legally, for us to stay single for awhile. I have no disagreement that we are also signing a legal contract that should be available to all and isn't, nor do I disagree for a second that we will get many legal benefits alongside the drawback I mentioned above that are very much worth fighting for.

Just wanted to clarify. Not trying to sound defensive.


erikaj - Nov 04, 2009 11:17:53 am PST #29283 of 30000
Always Anti-fascist!

Personally, I say enjoy your privilege. Just acknowledge that you have one. I mean, I don't expect you not to climb stairs because I can't.(I know...not quite the same.But not quite not, either.) Just don't forget about me down here, you know?


Daisy Jane - Nov 04, 2009 11:30:53 am PST #29284 of 30000
"This bar smells like kerosene and stripper tears."

Sorry to interrupt, but I don't know if omnis has seen this, and because he might not be ok bragging on himself.

Time lapse of his theater's new home [link]


Pix - Nov 04, 2009 11:31:03 am PST #29285 of 30000
We're all getting played with, babe. -Weird Barbie

Personally, I say enjoy your privilege. Just acknowledge that you have one. I mean, I don't expect you not to climb stairs because I can't.(I know...not quite the same.But not quite not, either.) Just don't forget about me down here, you know?

Was that directed at me specifically, Erika? I hope you all know that I do recognize that this is a privilege and know I would never forget about those who don't have it. Given my background (gay father, married lesbian cousin, bisexual myself but happened to fall in love with a man), I do care deeply and fight actively.

Okay, I am sounding defensive, and I'm so bone-weary right now that I'm sure I'm being way too sensitive. I'm going to take a break and come back after I'm processing things less personally. Not a flounce off. Love my Bitches.


brenda m - Nov 04, 2009 11:32:21 am PST #29286 of 30000
If you're going through hell/keep on going/don't slow down/keep your fear from showing/you might be gone/'fore the devil even knows you're there

Pix, I'm pretty sure it was directed more generally, and what you've said is basically what Erika's advocating above.


Pix - Nov 04, 2009 11:32:56 am PST #29287 of 30000
We're all getting played with, babe. -Weird Barbie

I'm sure you're right, Brenda. Sorry, Erika. So tired right now.