I think that I'm able to do this because the ceremony for me is about affirming the love and commitment between us more than it is about the legality of it

I totally support you and Drew getting married and am thrilled for you, but I do find myself disagreeing with this part. You aren't just having a commitment ceremony. You are doing that *AND* signing a legal contract that is recognized by the state of California, and all states, giving you specific rights and responsibilities. These rights would not be available to you if Drew were a woman or you were a man. You could still have the commitment ceremony, but you couldn't sign the contract and have it recognized.

Cass, I tried to acknowledge that in the next statement. My point was that that the emotional part is what the ceremony is about to me. The reason why we're having a wedding versus just continuing to live together, I mean, is primarily a personal, emotional one. Given some IRS history, it would actually be better in many ways, legally, for us to stay single for awhile. I have no disagreement that we are also signing a legal contract that should be available to all and isn't, nor do I disagree for a second that we will get many legal benefits alongside the drawback I mentioned above that are very much worth fighting for.

Just wanted to clarify. Not trying to sound defensive.

Personally, I say enjoy your privilege. Just acknowledge that you have one. I mean, I don't expect you not to climb stairs because I can't.(I know...not quite the same.But not quite not, either.) Just don't forget about me down here, you know?

Sorry to interrupt, but I don't know if omnis has seen this, and because he might not be ok bragging on himself.

Time lapse of his theater's new home [link]

Personally, I say enjoy your privilege. Just acknowledge that you have one. I mean, I don't expect you not to climb stairs because I can't.(I know...not quite the same.But not quite not, either.) Just don't forget about me down here, you know?

Was that directed at me specifically, Erika? I hope you all know that I do recognize that this is a privilege and know I would never forget about those who don't have it. Given my background (gay father, married lesbian cousin, bisexual myself but happened to fall in love with a man), I do care deeply and fight actively.

Okay, I am sounding defensive, and I'm so bone-weary right now that I'm sure I'm being way too sensitive. I'm going to take a break and come back after I'm processing things less personally. Not a flounce off. Love my Bitches.

Pix, I'm pretty sure it was directed more generally, and what you've said is basically what Erika's advocating above.

I'm sure you're right, Brenda. Sorry, Erika. So tired right now.

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You sound utterly wiped. Go have a lie down?

Rest, dear Kristin. Know that you are loved, here and elsewhere.

DJ and omnis, that time-lapse shows an exceptionally cool theater space.

A little free-floating bitching (seems appropriate for this thread) - it's the week of out annual conference and (due to my recent appendectomy and chronic back problems) I'm not attending. So today I came in at the usual time and parked myself at the front desk, since my office is as far from the front door as you can get. Our receptionist, who normally arrives about 9:30 called a little before 10:00 to say she'd be here "in a few minutes". Which turned out to be 11:00. Then she left about 3:30 ... and I'm here all alone (sob!) for the rest of today and all day tomorrow.

There may be a little psychic groin punching.