Rats, sorry about the travel grant. But still, yay for coming to SF.

Last night I went to the interfaith marriage equality service. The high point was probably hearing Harvey Milk's rabbi read the Prayer of St. Francis, at which I managed not to cry but my sinuses instantly expanded into a solid fleshy mass with the effort of not crying, so I'm not sure if the not crying was worth it.

The other huge high point was hearing a representative from Marriage Equality USA talk about her faith, and the no on 8 campaign, and the work done by another rep who lives up in a smallish redneck town about halfway between here and Oregon, and the incredibly brave and scary work she did in her community in the weeks before November '08--just knocking on the front door of every house that had a Yes on 8 sign in the yard, being invited in for coffee because they were all neighbors and all knew each other, and outing herself to one neighbor after another, just looking them all in the eye and saying, "When you put that sign up, you were talking about me, to me. Let me tell you what that means to me." She knocked on 199 doors, and 198 people took their signs down. (She never asked them to, they just did it.)

Such crazy giant courage. But how wearying, sickening and shitty that she had to do it at all.

And there was pretty music, awesome MLK quotes, and sappy, lovely handholding and earnestness.

The low point, unfortunately, was seeing my cousin's douchegasket ex-husband sit down in a pew across from mine and try to make eye contact with me. I ended up leaving a little early, mostly because I'd promised to be back at a certain time and didn't want to be late but also partly because I just didn't want to deal with him. At. All. I couldn't picture any outcome to any conversation that wouldn't end in me shrieking and disrupting all the good stuff that had gone before, and the event was so very much not about me and my family drama.

Bleah. There was so much that was very, very good about the evening, but I don't know if I can stomach seeing that fuckweasel on a regular basis. Next time I'll have to schlep over to one of the East Bay events.

Congratulations, Callaluna!

and I agree with you windsparrow that it is very unfair that you don't get to play with the kitty's tale.

and even though your cousin's ex tried to ruin the post, hs did not succeed. Because it was lovely and made me teary before I got to the unfun part.

I did have a pang of "am I too old?" when I tried a sample from the gothic lolita collection, but it was such a perfect color.

Ooh, which color? And no, you are not "too old" to wear it.

JZ, that does sound like a good gathering. I'm glad you were able to avoid confronting your cousin's ex.

Congratulations Callaluna!!!

I slept 2 hours before my cough woke me up. I would just like one month where I don't feel awful. It's been too long.

I did have a pang of "am I too old?" when I tried a sample from the gothic lolita collection, but it was such a perfect color.

Ooh, which color? And no, you are not "too old" to wear it.

Precisely. There are some gorgeous, gorgeous colors in that collection. I have several and love them to pieces. Because I am not too old for them and neither are you, Burrell.

just knocking on the front door of every house that had a Yes on 8 sign in the yard, being invited in for coffee because they were all neighbors and all knew each other, and outing herself to one neighbor after another, just looking them all in the eye and saying, "When you put that sign up, you were talking about me, to me. Let me tell you what that means to me."

That is so brave. Awful that it needed to be done at all, but I am reminded that some people are amazing when I read stories like this.

It's a simple waist cincher style. I want a plain white dress to wear under it.

Sounds great, sj. Best of luck with finding the perfect dress!

Congrats to Calluna! Two fantastic pieces of news! Your wedding sounds like it was fab.

JZ, the marriage equality service sounds amazing.

She knocked on 199 doors, and 198 people took their signs down. (She never asked them to, they just did it.)

That's just so awesome and inspiring. The Girl came back with similarly brave stories from the anti-homphobic crime vigil last week. People, and their determination to fight for change and against hate, never cease to amaze me.

Brain still explodey from last nights call. I need to remind myself, it's just talk, not an offer yet. But if it becomes an offer, oy. So much not finished here, and will take a few years before things are at a plateau that feels like I accomplished something. Ugg.

Omnis! Your opening night got a mention in the Economist. [link]

I am having a hard time celebrating marriage when it's denied to so many people for no goddamn good reason except fear and hatred.

But, regardless- I am very happy for you and your new family, Callaluna!