The part about not being able to force a spouse to testify makes more sense to me than the spouse actually being prevented from it.

I'm not saying it's not odd, but someone felt it was a natural thing to do because of the notion that husbands and wives were one under the law, so if you couldn't be forced to testify against yourself then your other half shouldn't be testifying either.

Did that make any sense? I'm being nibbled by ducks at the moment, and really wish I could actually crawl into the computer screen that is the b.org and hide from the various people to whom these ducks belong.

Fay, I definitely want to see your costume and it sounds like you're doing some really cool stuff with your classes. I tried to watch the impersonator, but had to turn it off. Bad dancing is very painful for me, which is why I watch SYTYCD auditions pretty much on fast forward.

I love this picture in particular of the infinitely adorable Ryan.

smonster, how's the trapped nerve today?

Slowly getting better but still prone to ouch if I forget and turn my head too quickly. Thanks for asking.

I can relate to fighting over seeing the world differently. The Girl and I have to work very hard on that one, especially when you factor in general communication difficulties. I hope that your discussion at least has some useful results in that area.

Things made more sense to me when I realized he had a prescriptivist view of culture vs my descriptivist view, but I tried to explain that to him and it was not making the sense.

He has a really (excuse me) FUCKING ANNOYING habit of interrupting me when I say something he perceives as untrue, which derails my thought pattern and cuts off things that he might actually agree with.

I'd like to have someone around to pat me clumsily and say, don't cry. I'd like feeling like someone gives a shit if I'm crying, even if it's over nothing.

I definitely appreciate the comforting, don't get me wrong. I think there's something about "Don't cry" specifically that hits a wee button, since I can't stop crying on command nor do I particularly want to. Maybe I could suggest that he say, "It's going to be okay" instead, or something.

Now I totally see the two of you as Spike and Buffy on Buffy's back porch and Spike reaching out awkwardly to clump, clump, clump on your shoulder, both of you wearing expressions of utter bafflement.

Ha! It's kind of like that. And sometimes it feels like we're as different as a vampire and a Slayer. I will cop to totally splashing in the guac last night in terms of privilege and passive aggressiveness. But even though he continually points out my sensitivity, he's definitely got some hair trigger issues of his own. Any time he perceives that he's being told what to think, watch out.

Anyway. He'd probably be horrified and somewhat pissed that I was airing our dirty laundry. And that's probably enough mememe for the moment.

Wait, no, one more thing. I want this day to be over so I can get a long overdue haircut and go home and veg.

Now I think I'm done. For a while. Thanks for listening.

Def putting the "bitching" in Bitches today.

No kidding, right? I cry very easily, which never fails to astonish and confound KBD. It's not something I can control, and I've pretty much given up on trying.

I hear you sister. Same thing happened to me last week and i had to go visit my boyfriend's family that evening. I think the glasses hide the puffy a bit but I still feel like I look like a over-emotional freak. Tea bags don't really help or they didn't last week. I wonder if they need to be black tea teabags? For the tannins or something?

I am home sick today and supposedly working from home but I can't get Word on my new computer to load. so not so much working as checking my work email every so often. That counts right?

PB&J and gallons of coffee:

Happy Truly Birthday, Omnis.

Zen, I also wanted to say that I get the tired of being alone thing, since I was single for 8 years prior to KBD.

checking my work email every so often. That counts right?

This is definitely my definition of WAH! Hope you feel better quickly.

I also don't resond well to "don't cry." DH has decided that "there, there" is the most neutral comfort response.

Amy - insent.

I hear "don't cry" as a plea more than an instruction, so it doens't bother me, but I get why it would.

Smonster, I am sorry about the middle-of-the-night troubles and crying. Totally been there and it sucks.

Can someone explain to me what an acquaintance wrote on my facebook status yesterday? I was annoyed by her comment, and haven't addressed it with her, but I want to make sure that I'm not missing something plain as day.

I wrote:

Steve moves to Boston in 4 weeks. I do not accept this premise. I know far too well about long-distance relationships. DO NOT WANT.

She wrote:

Nanita -- stop resisting - make it easier on yourself ;(

Any ideas on what she means?

I'd be annoyed too, Java. That's awfully cryptic.