Then don't fast. If you keep playing along you're going to have to hurt either her or yourself and some unlucky woman at some point.
A vague disclaimer is nobody's friend.
Willow ,'Conversations with Dead People'
Spike's Bitches 44: It's about the rules having changed.
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§ ita § - Sep 17, 2009 2:36:10 pm PDT #23607 of 30000
Well not canonically, no, but this is transformative fiction.
-t - Sep 17, 2009 2:44:18 pm PDT #23608 of 30000
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration
I'll just stand behind ita's post and nod.
And also add - if it's not completely obvious to us who are getting your side of all this that you are not ready to get married, it's probably not completely obvious to your family. I know it is unfair that you have to keep saying it over and over until they hear it, but I'm afraid you probably do.
Polter-Cow - Sep 17, 2009 2:52:17 pm PDT #23609 of 30000
What else besides ramen can you scoop? YOU CAN SCOOP THIS WORLD FROM DARKNESS!
The problem is I can't tell whether I'm not ready to get married or not ready to get married right now. Through this whole stupid expedited arranged marriage process where you barely get to know the girl before you decide you want to spend the rest of your life with her and then, boom, it's done. They want me to get married for the sake of getting married, and I don't want that.
Aims - Sep 17, 2009 2:55:40 pm PDT #23610 of 30000
Shit's all sorts of different now.
I say this with all the love for you in the world.
If that is not what you want, then you have to nut up and tell them that and be prepared to disengage from them as long as they bring it up. It's the onliest way to get it through to them that you need to do this on your terms - not theirs. They won't hear it for a long time, I'm sure, but you *have* to tell them in very clear, very blunt, very obvious ways.
Aims - Sep 17, 2009 2:56:33 pm PDT #23611 of 30000
Shit's all sorts of different now.
It's gonna suck and the emotional blackmail is gonna flow like hot molasses, but you have to find someway for them to hear it and for you to say it.
Aims - Sep 17, 2009 2:58:00 pm PDT #23612 of 30000
Shit's all sorts of different now.
Trifecta -
Then again, I told my co-worker she had a big ass today, so I might have lost some cred today.
amych - Sep 17, 2009 2:59:32 pm PDT #23613 of 30000
Now let us crush something soft and watch it fountain blood. That is a girlish thing to want to do, yes?
Then again, I told my co-worker she had a big ass today, so I might have lost some cred today.
Sure, but you didn't accidentally get talked into considering marriage with her, now did you?
Scrappy - Sep 17, 2009 3:00:53 pm PDT #23614 of 30000
Life moves pretty fast. You don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.
Or decide you want to start looking for a partner, and then enter in and really be part of the search--with the understanding that this may NOT be the best way for you to go about it but you will give it your very best shot. Because it isn't totally clear that you are not interested, since you keep following up on these matches.
Right now you are sort of halfway doing it, and that isn't fair to you, your family or any woman you deal with in the process.
Aims - Sep 17, 2009 3:01:01 pm PDT #23615 of 30000
Shit's all sorts of different now.
Nope. I double checked.
Polter-Cow - Sep 17, 2009 3:05:17 pm PDT #23616 of 30000
What else besides ramen can you scoop? YOU CAN SCOOP THIS WORLD FROM DARKNESS!
I have no idea how to make them hear it, because I have said it many times. I have specifically said the sentence, "I don't want to get married for the sake of getting married." But they don't see it that way.
I'm a broken record, I'm sorry. This is frustrating.