Spike's Bitches 44: It's about the rules having changed.
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
It would have generally ended positively, but then I sent a text to a mutual friend about how glad I was about that, she found out about it, and now is mad at me for telling tales out of school.
I know I have freaky privacy "quirks" but I'd deal with someone mentioning me but kinda cringe if it was at all implying how personal things might have gotten or anything. I think. My privacy quirks are pretty damn quirky though. By which I mean I could use therapy. I'd totally (and have) accept an apology if you did step outside her comfort zone.
That said,
if there's a sneaking suspicion on your part that she may have a bit of the crazy going on, then I think it's really best to be a bit conservative and RUN FOR THE FUCKING HILLS, EVEN IF THOSE HILLS ARE CURRENTLY ON FIRE.
THIS!
:: sigh :: I tried for C. Alas, she didn't like me that way. Very happy for M.
Sean, talk to her. Apologize. If she was recently burned, she might be a bit gun shy right now. Drop back into low gear.
I know I have freaky privacy "quirks" but I'd deal with someone mentioning me but kinda cringe if it was at all implying how personal things might have gotten or anything. I think.
Did she ask/tell you to not mention your relationship to anyone/mutual friends/co-workers? If so, then yes, doing what she asked you not to do isn't cool. But if she didn't ask that of you, then taking you to task for it is maybe a little crazy.
She did ask me not to.
Hm. That's a tough position, especially when Mutual Friend is the one who started talking to you about it. Because there's no graceful way to say "I can't talk about that." It makes you, or her, or both, look crazy and anti-social.
And then she found out from him about the conversation? Maybe he could have kept it to himself, is what I'm thinking.
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