On the nose. Especially when some people think stories of necrophilia with bonus blood as lube is just another day in the fandom.

And some people are squicked by het. It's such a mix of delicacy and profanity.

Oh god, Amy, I think I read that fic, or at least ventured into it. ::gags::

I have to say, I'm glad that the D/C mods came down on people warning for slash in a D/C community. If you're there, it's a major tipoff of what's the main theme.

Theresa, I'm glad that I'm not the only one who went with relish, and am also weirded out that that was even an optional thought to have.

I don't think you should warn for slash, ever. And warning for het is cutesy and offensive.

List pairings, and *maybe* put up a contains. Spoilerfont surprise pairings if you must.

I have to say, I'd hate to be traversing fandom with triggers. Slavery can make me disproportionately anxious and have physiological reactions, but I consider that just a peculiarity. The levels of defense I've seen people erect around themselves, and the severity of them being broached beggars my imagination.

Luckily I don't go beyond "severe distaste" and "oh, god, that's sick." No damage, no fugue states, no inability to read statements of content without being set off.

You relish people are *weird*. I've never even had a PBR, wouldn't know one to see it, don't drink beer, but got the reference. Evidently you're slacking in your hipster-mocking duties. You'd better get on that.

Julie, it's the infamous "dry-aged" fic among some of us. It's not even an enjoyable bad fic to read, sadly.

I get that people have triggers, but I do wonder what happens when they read fiction in book form. Or even watch some TV. TV might be easier to find spoilers for, but there are a whole lot of books out there.

okay, how is "read at your own risk" in any way helpful? Beyond me not clicking?

I have no idea how they can navigate the real world. At least fandom has decided to provide a semi-safe space where you can chew someone out for not using warnings properly for common triggers and intense squicks.

But say you're reading Game Of Thrones. I know I'm going to have to skim the incest parts (spoiler for book), because that's how I roll. I'm glad I know they're in there, but that's because fandom told me.

I'd assume the people with bad common triggers do a lot of due diligence. But how the fuck can you have everything cleared for potential rape scenes, for instance?

Me, I'm going into Captain America hoping that the war is abstract enough for me to get by with easily. But again, it's not a trigger, it's just something I'm very uncomfortable with in fiction.

Superheroes might fix that.

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how is "read at your own risk" in any way helpful? Beyond me not clicking?

God, that's totally rude. It's very "I deign to share my magic with you."

I get that people have triggers

I have discovered that I want to be warned for non-con. If it's a writer I trust, or the rec came from someone I trust, I'll read the story anyway but I want to know ahead of time. Rape takes me to a very bad place.

And I definitely avoid deathfics. I fully support any writer's right to create the story they want to tell, and their right to craft the story however it suits their needs. But I also support my right not to put myself through the emotional wringer watching a character who I've invested in dying. Too much of that in my real life; I don't need it in my fictional life too. As I said, I completely support the writing of it, I just won't read it.

Warning for non-con is a very good thing. You have the triggered, the completely uninterested (me), and the people who want to seek it out. I'm sure those three groups outnumber the set of readers who doesn't care one way or another.

Deathfics make me a bit irrational. I don't want, in general, to be made sad by fic, even when it's good. Stories where they maim the main characters and don't heal them...not good news.

Deathfics make me a bit irrational. I don't want, in general, to be made sad by fic, even when it's good. Stories where they maim the main characters and don't heal them...not good news.

I can sometimes find deathfics sad in a cathartic way, but I totally get not wanting to be put through that particular wringer. Out of curiosity, would you include a canon death* (e.g. John, Ellen) in that category?

* I do warn for this, just in case. Better safe than sorry