He did say a No should be respected

But only after 4 pages of "saying no to sex without a doctor's note will DESTROY YOUR HUSBAND'S FRAGILE MANHOOD and he'll be forced by his base animal nature to divorce you, you horrible emasculating bitch." There's a big "but" at the end of that sentence that pretty much nullifies the lip service being paid to consent.

The threat of "if you don't put out, he'll know you don't love him and he'll leave you" is exactly the kind of emotional blackmail that leads to more explicit kinds of verbal and physical abuse.

Or does the wife never get horny in Prager's universe?

Oh heavens no! That would make her...

::lowers voice to whisper::

a whore.

Well, Prager equated a wife's obligation for sex on demand with the husband's obligation to go to his job every day in order to receive a paycheck. So that fairly well establishes that wives are, in Prager's worldview, whores. They just got a gold ring, once, instead of getting paid every time they have sex.

Dude is whack.

Stepmonster gave me a sex talk that basically ended with "You're going to have to do it even when you don't feel like it."

The priest giving us instructions when I married DH#1 told me it was "my obligation" to have sex with my husband. It really hadn't felt that way.

Don't get me wrong. Even at fifteen, I could guess that every time wasn't going to be a televised-style passionate clinch, but, that combined with other gems such as "You can never really tell a man the truth." left me disinclined to take her advice. Also, now, I think she got molested.

Do any of the crafty Buffistas have a Ravelry account? If so, is it something I should join with my real name, or as Sophia, or as some made up crafty type name?

ETA: I am sorry, I am not sure this is a good type, what with the asshat marital obligation man talk. Sorry!

Sophia, I have one, but I have not done a damn thing on it - let me go see what my username is.

I have the real name there.

Don't forget the leap-second tonight. You set your clocks back one second at 11:59:59 PM.

Or you could just do what I do, and let your atomic clock set itself....

Ew. My office is one block from the parade route. Whole families are camped out on the street.

People pee on those corners, yo!

OK, I just figured out why Denis Prager's name sounded familiar. He's written a few books on Judaism, and gets his name in the Jewish press fairly regularly with ridiculous statements. Which both puts his remarks in better context for me, and makes them absurd -- within Jewish law, sex is an obligation on the husband, not the wife.

within Jewish law, sex is an obligation on the husband, not the wife.

Yeah, has he not seen Yentl?