And some may be doing it because it is the only way the kids get the help they need. Not because they are bad parents, but because they've exhausted everything they can do, through no failing of their own. There was a TAL focusing on something like that.
I've a friend who is pretty much...well, they've done everything. Used everything they can get their hands on and they've had to work their asses off to get those resources, even fighting the system that is supposed to be helping them. And now, they're in this horrid cycle of courts and juvie and drama. Until the kid hits 18, or straightens out, this will probably continue. It's all that has been left available to them. Short of a private residential center, which they can in no way swing and is no guarantee...that's all that is left.
Omg I was not prepared for the craziness that is the JCPenny portrait studio. They are running an hour behind. There are mobs of families, no room in the waiting area. Oy
I'm sitting with Sparky and Sarameg. I don't think I have enough info to really make a judgment about the law or the people. I do know, as a middle school and high school teacher, that I have seen how hard it is to parent some kids and how little help there is to make sure a parent knows what to do. I cannot tell you how many parent-conferences I have had where people say, "I don't know what to do with _____. What should I do?"
And, as a person who uses state-funded programs for both of my kids, I cannot begin to express the sheer frustration, difficult and heartbreak there is in getting the system to respond to your kid's needs. The amount of paper I work I do, the phone calls I have to make, the millions of visits, previsits, insurance papers I have to file is almost a full time job.
Anyhow. Clearly a hot button issue for me. Even without enough info.
We took Noah to Kidspace today (burrell, I got your message after. It would have been a terrible day for you to come because of the smoke, which is headache inducing) because K's class had to go there. He had so much fun. So much that he even melted down in a way that I had never seen before because the sensory stimulation was too much, too much, too much. Poor noodle.
oh no msbelle!
I need buffistas medical advice. I did something to my hip getting on the bus with my cart. I think it might be sciatic nerve related because it radiates down my leg. But now I can't really move or bend-- heat or ice?
I do know, as a middle school and high school teacher, that I have seen how hard it is to parent some kids and how little help there is to make sure a parent knows what to do. I cannot tell you how many parent-conferences I have had where people say, "I don't know what to do with _____. What should I do?"
Exactly.
What is also difficult is the child stuck in a home where they are blamed for all the problems and the parent regularly tells them they would 'get rid of them if they could,' or that the only reason the child is still in the house is because the law forces the parent to keep them.
This last week I tried, again, to help for one of my students and was told, again, that verbal abuse isn't considered abuse. I was also told that not taking care of a childs medical needs isn't abuse, either.
About an hour. It is getting steadily better. This has happened before, but never for this long-- I think I exacerbated it because even though a nice man got my cart of the bus while I was saying "OW, OW, OW"and clutching my hip, I still had to get it off, home and up my stairs.
I think I exacerbated it because even though a nice man got my cart of the bus while I was saying "OW, OW, OW"and clutching my hip, I still had to get it off, home and up my stairs.
Though with sciatica, it's my understanding, that the more you use move and use it the better it is for alleviating pain. Dunno if that's true or not.
Ibuprofen every four hours and ice.
