I love the menthol tissues.

I know, I'm not quite right.

::sits on the Not Quite Right bench with Andi::

VW, the problem with breakups where the former couple want to maintain the friendship is that, well, usually, you need a transitional period of non-contact to let the rough edges of emotion heal over. (The one exception I've really seen to this are established, long-term couples who decouple on realizing they've already unofficial made the transition to Just Friends.)

Good luck, to both of you.

And, seekrit message for omnis: you're so much a better person than I am for blushing. Hell, I love our show, and the encouraging you or any other Buffista to get out (or stay in) and get some. You're just responding better than others to my teasing.

Target's evil.

I succumbed to the awfulness and bought the sing-a-long Mama Mia! DVD.

I don't CARE if Pierce Brosnan sounds like a goat in heat while singing. I'm going to pretend I'm cavorting on a Greek island. Hopefully one sans riots.

OK, help me out here Buffistas: I am not good with the explaining. But I know there's gotta be a website out there that is.

Last night I was with some people. Friends of friends. And one of them, straight up, told me a racist joke.

A joke about black people.

I was like "....you did not just tell me that joke. Please don't tell jokes like that around me ever again. I don't think that's funny. I'm going to give you the benefit of the doubt and ASSUME that you are not telling that joke to be racist, but please don't ever do that again"

...AND THEN I HAD TO GET INTO AN ARGUMENT WITH SOME FRIENDS ABOUT WHY RACIST JOKES ARE DIFFERENT THAN OTHER HUMOR.

About why I would think it's OK for the lesbians in the room to tell a joke about a second date and a UHaul, and think THAT's funny, but NOT think it's OK for the white girl to tell a joke about black people to an entirely white audience.

WHAT THE FUCK?

I don't even remember what kind of justifications they tried to give (other than...trying to make me seem uptight and humorless?), but...

Oh boy. Somebody needs to read up on white privilege, for one thing...

About why I would think it's OK for the lesbians in the room to tell a joke about a second date and a UHaul, and think THAT's funny, but NOT think it's OK for the white girl to tell a joke about black people to an entirely white audience.

I would submit that the audience isn't even the problem. I've had people tell racist jokes when I was standing there ("Oh, um, I didn't mean you" @@)

So, were they saying that it was okay because there were no black people there, or that the joke wasn't racist?

OMG.

Somebody needs to send meara better lesbians, stat!

yuck meara. I've ended friendships over similar stuff.

Somebody needs to send meara better lesbians, stat!

Sure, but by New Years they'll have fully integrated with the native population and all be exes of exes.