Also, he's afraid we will never be able to contribute equally to the finances of the relationship, which, ok. Maybe not. Certainly not right now, but that doesn't mean that won't change in 5 months, 22 days, and 15 hours.

I'm just so. Hurt. I'm just so hurt.

Oh, {{{vw}}} that sucks. Harvey is purring his little heart out at the computer screen for you.

It's weird its like I'm a total stranger. Which I guess I basically am since I see her and the rest of my family like once a year these days, but i weak up in cold sweats.

One of the things I learned at a professional conference (for caregivers) presentation on Alzheimer's, is that no matter what other cognitive function they lose, an Alzheimer's patient will continue to have a sense of humor and continue to appreciate music (particularly the music of their youth) throughout the course of the disease. So, even if your Grandmother forgets how to say your name, or that she knows you - you can still connect with her in those ways.

I'm sorry, vw. It sounds like you have a very good attitude about an unpleasant situation. {{{}}}

It's ok. It was bound to happen. I seriously pissed off some god in a past life.

(((((vw))))) I'm so sorry. You do work so very hard, and I hope he realizes that sooner rather than later.

{{{{{{vw}}}}}}

It's hard. I hope you both find your way through.

Not so sure it was bound to happen, but the break was good for Matt and I . He has regrets, but for me - I sort of refound myself and knew what I wanted when we did get back together.

However, the $$ issue pings me big time. Maybe because some fields will never make the money that others make. ( oh lets say librarian vs High Level Tech) I will not make more or even close to what Matt makes. I contribute in other ways. and quite frankly , I'm not so sure you should pick a partner based on income -- as you said anyone can change.

I forgot

{{vw}}

you probably need hugs more than words

vw, I'm on AIM now if you need someone to talk to.

If it helps, I think everyone is difficult. Not trying to downplay your issues, but we all have something. Matt and I have so many things in common, yet where we differ it can be huge. And in some places where we differ it feels minute to one of us and big to the other. And the worst places are the mixed up ones. Matt is more extreme in his emotions. I need his enthusiasm , but I can also find it tiring. And it also means that his ability to hate/dislike something is way stronger than mine. or worry. or be upset. Hard to handle. He needs my steadiness, but he can't always figure it out. and if I do get really emotional over something that confuses things even more.