I'm sorry, vw. It sounds like you have a very good attitude about an unpleasant situation. {{{}}}
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Glamcookie - Dec 06, 2008 1:01:22 pm PST #3509 of 10000
I know my own heart and understand my fellow man. But I am made unlike anyone I have ever met. I dare to say I am like no one in the whole world. - Anne Lister
vw bug - Dec 06, 2008 1:06:50 pm PST #3510 of 10000
Mostly lurking...
It's ok. It was bound to happen. I seriously pissed off some god in a past life.
sj - Dec 06, 2008 1:31:01 pm PST #3511 of 10000
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."
(((((vw))))) I'm so sorry. You do work so very hard, and I hope he realizes that sooner rather than later.
Barb - Dec 06, 2008 1:33:31 pm PST #3512 of 10000
“Not dead yet!”
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It's hard. I hope you both find your way through.
beth b - Dec 06, 2008 1:36:39 pm PST #3513 of 10000
oh joy! Oh Rapture ! I have a brain!
Not so sure it was bound to happen, but the break was good for Matt and I . He has regrets, but for me - I sort of refound myself and knew what I wanted when we did get back together.
However, the $$ issue pings me big time. Maybe because some fields will never make the money that others make. ( oh lets say librarian vs High Level Tech) I will not make more or even close to what Matt makes. I contribute in other ways. and quite frankly , I'm not so sure you should pick a partner based on income -- as you said anyone can change.
beth b - Dec 06, 2008 1:37:31 pm PST #3514 of 10000
oh joy! Oh Rapture ! I have a brain!
I forgot
{{vw}}
you probably need hugs more than words
sj - Dec 06, 2008 1:46:28 pm PST #3515 of 10000
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."
vw, I'm on AIM now if you need someone to talk to.
beth b - Dec 06, 2008 1:57:07 pm PST #3516 of 10000
oh joy! Oh Rapture ! I have a brain!
If it helps, I think everyone is difficult. Not trying to downplay your issues, but we all have something. Matt and I have so many things in common, yet where we differ it can be huge. And in some places where we differ it feels minute to one of us and big to the other. And the worst places are the mixed up ones. Matt is more extreme in his emotions. I need his enthusiasm , but I can also find it tiring. And it also means that his ability to hate/dislike something is way stronger than mine. or worry. or be upset. Hard to handle. He needs my steadiness, but he can't always figure it out. and if I do get really emotional over something that confuses things even more.
vw bug - Dec 06, 2008 1:59:02 pm PST #3517 of 10000
Mostly lurking...
Thanks, sj. I'm ok. I'm actually calming down, so I think I'm gonna chill and go to bed soon.
I think we may actually work things out. I know he's not trying to be a jerk. He's just trying to figure things out. And I'm trying not to freak out in a space where he'll see it.
beth b - Dec 06, 2008 2:05:52 pm PST #3518 of 10000
oh joy! Oh Rapture ! I have a brain!
The best thing about the break we took - I don't think Matt has looked back once since he decided to be with me. And our first year living together was very rocky.
Most smart people are afraid of getting lost in a relationship. Sometimes thinking about something actually works. We were given brains for something. From everything you've said he sounds like a good guy. You deserve someone that takes things seriously enough to think about things. Sleep well, vw.