(((((vw))))) I'm so sorry. You do work so very hard, and I hope he realizes that sooner rather than later.

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It's hard. I hope you both find your way through.

Not so sure it was bound to happen, but the break was good for Matt and I . He has regrets, but for me - I sort of refound myself and knew what I wanted when we did get back together.

However, the $$ issue pings me big time. Maybe because some fields will never make the money that others make. ( oh lets say librarian vs High Level Tech) I will not make more or even close to what Matt makes. I contribute in other ways. and quite frankly , I'm not so sure you should pick a partner based on income -- as you said anyone can change.

I forgot

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you probably need hugs more than words

vw, I'm on AIM now if you need someone to talk to.

If it helps, I think everyone is difficult. Not trying to downplay your issues, but we all have something. Matt and I have so many things in common, yet where we differ it can be huge. And in some places where we differ it feels minute to one of us and big to the other. And the worst places are the mixed up ones. Matt is more extreme in his emotions. I need his enthusiasm , but I can also find it tiring. And it also means that his ability to hate/dislike something is way stronger than mine. or worry. or be upset. Hard to handle. He needs my steadiness, but he can't always figure it out. and if I do get really emotional over something that confuses things even more.

Thanks, sj. I'm ok. I'm actually calming down, so I think I'm gonna chill and go to bed soon.

I think we may actually work things out. I know he's not trying to be a jerk. He's just trying to figure things out. And I'm trying not to freak out in a space where he'll see it.

The best thing about the break we took - I don't think Matt has looked back once since he decided to be with me. And our first year living together was very rocky.

Most smart people are afraid of getting lost in a relationship. Sometimes thinking about something actually works. We were given brains for something. From everything you've said he sounds like a good guy. You deserve someone that takes things seriously enough to think about things. Sleep well, vw.

{{{{ vw }}}} Dunno what else to say. From the stories and pictures, y'all make a very cute couple. I have faith things will work out for the good in the end.

{{vw}} Relationships are hard. An emotional roller coaster no matter how long you have been at it.

We have bunches of issues that we battle regularly. We come from different generations, different upbringings, different attitudes about so many things. The money issue never mattered to me. It has always just been one pot. But there are so many other things that we struggle with continuously.

A little space is often a good thing. This may be more the case since Brendon and I work together. Right now he has gone off to watch a basketball game and a GF is coming over to drink wine and watch The Tick with me. (she has never seen it) We call it downtime. A necessity.