Vortex, it doesn't make you a horrible kid hater. I understand the desire to see your friend and catch up. Personally, I would jump at the chance to leave the kids with DH for two hours and catch up with an old friend for a drink. You could couch it in those terms--"Would you need a break away and be able to meet up with me for a drink by yourself?" If she says it's impossible, just say you might not be able to do lunch and leave it at that.
I totally understand where you're coming from. I would hope that she feels the same way. I have found that meeting up with the kids present never really gives me enough time to catch up properly--especially in a restaurant or public place.
Beverly is nicer than I am.
I think that I find it so frustrating because I know that the kids should be more important than our chat, so it's not like I resent them or think that she should pay attention to me instead of them. And, it's hard for her.
Echoing Cash on everything. Including the Beverly is nicer than me.
I don't know-- my default if I'm talking to someone who doesn't have kids, is to first find out how they feel about having the kids around rather than assume they're wanted everywhere.
Um, why should the kids be more important? In life, sure, but for that one hour block?
I need to whine. I seem to have pinched a nerve or something like that in my upper back and it's driving me nuts. I'm stuck sitting in a theatre all day and I just can find a position that isn't causing me pain. It was also miserable driving down here since it hurts to turn my head to the left or right and you kind of have to do that to change lanes.
Feel better, ND.
Why did I think cooking today at Mom's would be a good idea? Now I don't want to come back tomorrow.
Oh, ND, I am so sorry. Go away pinched nerve!
Um, why should the kids be more important? In life, sure, but for that one hour block?
I'm with brenda on this one.
feel better~ma, ND.
Have you taken anything? I suffer from something similar sometimes and it doesn't make the pain go away but a couple aspirin makes it bearable.
Um, why should the kids be more important? In life, sure, but for that one hour block?
I mean in the sense that I shouldn't expect them not to pay attention to the kid, i.e. if the kid is about to knock over a vase in the middle of my story, I shouldn't expect the parent to not intervene with the kid.
