Peace and sanity~ma for Teppy.
Well, the furnace guy has been here and gone. Has to order a part, and come back tomorrow.
Never send a minion to do a god's work.
Glory ,'The Killer In Me'
Spike's Bitches 42: Which question do you want me to answer first?
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
WindSparrow - Oct 23, 2008 8:57:06 am PDT #9003 of 10001
Love is stronger than death and harder than sorrow. Those who practice it are fierce like the light of stars traveling eons to pierce the night.
DavidS - Oct 23, 2008 8:57:47 am PDT #9004 of 10001
"Look, son, if it's good enough for Shirley Bassey, it's good enough for you."
How do I even deal with that?
You call his friend and ask her to drive him home anyway?
Jessica - Oct 23, 2008 8:58:09 am PDT #9005 of 10001
And then Ortus came and said "It's Ortin' time" and they all Orted off into the sunset
Any way you can just show up and get him after work, Tep? It doesn't sound like arguing with him is going to get you anywhere at this point.
Steph L. - Oct 23, 2008 8:59:15 am PDT #9006 of 10001
Unusually and exceedingly peculiar and altogether quite impossible to describe
How do I even deal with that?
You call his friend and ask her to drive him home anyway?
I realized I don't have her number. Mostly because, why would I have the phone numbers of my parents' friends?
SailAweigh - Oct 23, 2008 9:01:35 am PDT #9007 of 10001
Nana korobi, ya oki. (Fall down seven times, stand up eight.) ~Yuzuru Hanyu/Japanese proverb
Damn, Steph, I can think of all kinds of options for your dad, but he seems to be a real expert at rationalizing his own martydom. At this point, let him stay. Eventually, he'll get tired of shelling out the extra money every time he pulls this. (I hope, for your sake.)
sj - Oct 23, 2008 9:06:40 am PDT #9008 of 10001
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."
After making what feels like a gazillion phone calls today (despite my phone phobia, go me!) I think I finally was able to get my insurance agency to fax over the right form and now I need to get dressed and run to make the meeting on time. Wish me luck!
Steph L. - Oct 23, 2008 9:07:43 am PDT #9009 of 10001
Unusually and exceedingly peculiar and altogether quite impossible to describe
he seems to be a real expert at rationalizing his own martydom.
I guess it's his way of trying to maintain some small degree of control over what's happening. I understand that -- his body is just completely falling to pieces and hurting and not working properly and he can't do anything under his own power to fix it. So he tries to control what he can.
The problem is, what he's exerting control over is not just his mode of transportation, but *me.* I'm trying to *help.* I'm trying to give him options -- more options means more control. But I guess when I don't fall in line with what he thinks should happen, it's like one more thing being taken out of his control.
I just don't know why he can't look to the left and see the other options.
Fred Pete - Oct 23, 2008 9:09:43 am PDT #9010 of 10001
Ann, that's a ferret.
((((Teppy)))) I'm with Jessica. Just show up. Then point out that his options are (1) let you drive him home, or (2) stay, which means you'll have wasted the trip. Which means, if you want to be evil, you get to play martyr.
Steph L. - Oct 23, 2008 9:13:49 am PDT #9011 of 10001
Unusually and exceedingly peculiar and altogether quite impossible to describe
Well, what I really want is for someone *else* to drive him home. I'm so sick and fucking tired of being the only one.
I know that's awful, but there it is.
Dana - Oct 23, 2008 9:14:03 am PDT #9012 of 10001
I'm terrifically busy with my ennui.
The problem is, what he's exerting control over is not just his mode of transportation, but *me.*
Teppy, my grandmother is doing this to my mom and her brother, and it's absolutely a matter of control. She has to visit the nursing home where my grandfather is every day. She has to decide when. If they suggest she take a taxi, it's proof that they consider her a burden.
It's really not malicious. It's just a way of coping. It doesn't make it suck less for you, of course.