Handsome brooding vampire guy has to swoop in all sensitive mouth and overhanging forehead. How 'bout leaving some scraps for the homely-looking fellows who don't turn evil when they get some?

Doyle ,'Life of the Party'


Spike's Bitches 42: Which question do you want me to answer first?  

[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.


ChiKat - Sep 25, 2008 1:49:36 pm PDT #6683 of 10001
That man was going to shank me. Over an omelette. Two eggs and a slice of government cheese. Is that what my life is worth?

Is there some kind of Time Management program?

There are a ton of time management seminars out there. In a city of the size of Dallas, you could probably find one easily.


Laga - Sep 25, 2008 1:53:11 pm PDT #6684 of 10001
You should know I'm a big deal in the Resistance.

Omnis I think it might be inborn. I had a friend who eventually got fired for tardiness and her boss tried so hard to help her. She was supposed to be in at 9 but she came in close to 10 almost every day so eventually, to keep from having to fire her, they shifted her start time to 10... and she started coming in at 11. I think for some people tardiness is impossible to overcome.


amych - Sep 25, 2008 1:55:33 pm PDT #6685 of 10001
Now let us crush something soft and watch it fountain blood. That is a girlish thing to want to do, yes?

Is there some kind of Time Management program? Not quite 12-step or Weight Watchers, but, you know, something that I can say "you've identified this as a problem, how about this to help you learn to make it right".

Tons of 'em. Books, websites, life coaches, therapy methodologies -- a whole range of possibilities from do-it-yourself on up. For this guy, from the sounds of things, I'd probably suggest starting with the book ADD-Friendly Ways To Organize Your Life -- with the disclaimer that you don't have to be ADD to benefit, and that I'm not trying to diagnose anyone, but it's got a lot of quick and digestible tips without getting into a big you-must-be-a-productivity-ninja thing. And with the caveat that it's an ongoing process; not just buy a book and you're done, but work on a few habits at a time, see if the approach works better, rejigger what isn't working, work on self awareness, and then start again tomorrow...

Also, it's something I've seen a lot of with people that age. They may be smart and skilled, but learning that, hey, dumbass, actually showing up and doing what you said you'd do is the MOST IMPORTANT THING is something that a lot of post-college-age kids don't really seem to get until they've gotten spanked by it a few times. I've come around to thinking that one of the big goals with student workers and interns is teaching them how to have a job.

(And it's definitely not something people are either born with or hopeless at -- even if some learn it more easily than others.)


WindSparrow - Sep 25, 2008 1:59:50 pm PDT #6686 of 10001
Love is stronger than death and harder than sorrow. Those who practice it are fierce like the light of stars traveling eons to pierce the night.

Ok, so there is wi-fi in the hospital. The morphine seems to be helping take the edge off the pain. Daniel appreciates all your good wishes, and so do I.


brenda m - Sep 25, 2008 2:01:46 pm PDT #6687 of 10001
If you're going through hell/keep on going/don't slow down/keep your fear from showing/you might be gone/'fore the devil even knows you're there

I struggle with this all the time, especially when I'm grappling with depression. But that's also a factor of having some flexibility with work - when I had jobs where it was more rigid, it was still a scramble, but I didn't let the time slip nearly as badly.


sj - Sep 25, 2008 2:06:18 pm PDT #6688 of 10001
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."

J is out of surgery! Everything went perfectly, and hopefully he won't need another one until he needs his pacemaker moved in about 6 years. I can breathe again.


amych - Sep 25, 2008 2:08:52 pm PDT #6689 of 10001
Now let us crush something soft and watch it fountain blood. That is a girlish thing to want to do, yes?

Oh, hooray for J!


Fay - Sep 25, 2008 2:22:57 pm PDT #6690 of 10001
"Fuck Western ideologically-motivated gender identification!" Sulu gasped, and came.

I remember various of the songs I had, but figured I'd ask the Bitches if they have any suggestions. It's mostly cheesy stuff--I have some country songs ("Stand" by Rascall Flatts), "Fighter", by Christina Aguilera, "Stronger" by Kanye...I forget what else, I have to go through my music. Other suggestions?

Chumbawumba - Tubthumping.

Gloria Gaynor - I will Survive

Destiny's Child - Survivor

Louis Armstrong - Everybody wants to be a cat (...er, just because.)

Fairground Attraction - Perfect


Calli - Sep 25, 2008 2:28:06 pm PDT #6691 of 10001
I must obey the inscrutable exhortations of my soul—Calvin and Hobbs

Yay! I'm glad J's OK.


Fay - Sep 25, 2008 3:03:56 pm PDT #6692 of 10001
"Fuck Western ideologically-motivated gender identification!" Sulu gasped, and came.

me too! Also wishing Daniel gets well soon.