I like Dress for Success

Hmm, looks like there's an affiliate in my area. I'd heard of them, but thanks for the rec.

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OK, I'm learning a lot here. Love it! It's always best to see it from others point of view, rather than just sitting in my shoes going "well, that's not how *I* was taught... blah blah blah".

"Lady" sports teams are in fact a huge issue; they're a remnant of the first days of women's sports teams. It's unthinkable for girls to be Bulldogs, or Tigers, or whatever, so we'll make them Lady Bulldogs, and Lady Tigers. They aren't the real thing; they're cute and unthreatening. And you know, since you obviously know women's basketball, that in reality, those women are absolutely fierce athletes -- but the name still suggests "not really as tough as the Mighty Fightin' Whatnots".

Said like that, I totally see the point. I had always seen it as a way to differentiate between the two teams. So if the Men & Women both were playing a game, it was an easy way to talk about the game "And the Lady Vol's wholloped Duke last night..." kind of thing. But why some schools feel the need and not others?

I guess the difference in my perception is, I've grown up seeing them as equal, and a name is just a name. The folks who play for the Cleveland Indians aren't actually Indians. It's just what we refer to the team as. That said, I totally get how, after years of "there there" and "you shouldn't do that because (fill in crazy reason)", how a name could effect how folks perceive you as.

OK, hopefully this isn't perceived as a "two step forward, one step back". But being a fan of the "Vagina Monologues", and thinking of the bit on the "c" word (not gonna even white font for fear of arrows flung at me)... if you let "Them" take ownership of the definition of "Lady", then it will always be that 'bad word'. Maybe it's time you (I wanted to say "we", but being a man, it seemed like it wasn't up to me) rebrand "Lady" to not be a useless arm candy on a Lord, or a young female in trouble with her parents, or someone whose body can't regulate body temperature naturally. So? What should be the new definition of "Lady"?

That said. I'm angry at work. I put in LAST WEEK forms that need to be filled out in order to get rental equipment. And a check. We told them I was picking it up today, in the late morning. The front office still hasn't done the insurance paperwork. Now, I am behind schedule. Grrr. We gotta mount a musical people!!!!

:: breathe ::

MM, do you have another cow? I'm not ready to order it just yet, but just checking in case I do.

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Maybe it's time you (I wanted to say "we", but being a man, it seemed like it wasn't up to me) rebrand "Lady" to not be a useless arm candy on a Lord, or a young female in trouble with her parents, or someone whose body can't regulate body temperature naturally. So? What should be the new definition of "Lady"?

Le Tigre has done this a little bit.

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Le Tigre

Loves! Go on and act surprised.

I got a haircut last night and thankfully have a wee bit of style back in my hair. I'm growing it out (sorry Hec) and it was feeling blah and lifeless and boring as it is in that dreaded in-between stage (just above the shoulders). She trimmed my bangs and made them side-swept and thinned out the bottom and made it jagged at the ends. Much better. Also got some caramelly highlights. Now I can get married tomorrow (!!!) feeling pretty.

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Maybe it's time you (I wanted to say "we", but being a man, it seemed like it wasn't up to me) rebrand "Lady"

Eh. "Woman" is a perfectly good word, and it's more equal to "man" than "lady" is.

If "gentleman" begins to edge out the usage of "man," then I might reconsider.

But why some schools feel the need and not others?

The patriarchy has a death grip.

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Hmm, looks like there's an affiliate in my area. I'd heard of them, but thanks for the rec

I like it because you take the clothes to Crest Cleaners, who cleans them free of charge, and transports them to the charity. They give you a claims receipt for your taxes.

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I can get married tomorrow (!!!)

!!!!YAY!!!!

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Now I can get married tomorrow (!!!)

Yay!

feeling pretty.

'Cuz you totally are.

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Yay marriage! Glamcookie being pretty is not news, but I am still pleased to hear it.

ION, I am mad at ME. I forgot my therapist's appointment. I swear I knew it, I checked it yesterday, but it did not occur to me once all day today. I merrily went out to take advantage of the NOT RAINING and went to Harvard Square and had a burrito and went to Lush and came back to Kendall and got a iced mocha and lalalalala, and... yeah. I just did this a couple months ago too. Maybe even last month? Not long ago at any rate. This is an annoying new habit I tell you what.

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Yay, marriage!

The UW women's teams are, unfortunately, the Husky Women.

I have found that checking and questioning my assumptions is a good thing. Mostly, I do it in the context of anti-racist self-education. Lots of things that don't seem loaded or harmful from inside the privilege (spelling hard on phone) bubble are, once you step outside it.

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