Or, like, do they just live in grosser homes?

Probably this. One of the ways in a marriage that cleaning falls on one partner over the other is that cleanliness differ. I'm not going to assign gender to that because when I was with M, he way higher cleanliness standards than I did (vacum every day!) but somehow the cleaning was still my responsibility.

Kissing good night IS SO child care. At the very least, absolutely during the toddler/still learning to self-soothe years.

Signed,

Up from 1:30 to 4 this morning kissing a child goodnight

Huh?

Ow!

Wow!

Yeah, but if it's part of a story it'll probably be more like

this,

practice.

down?

anyway)

So changing the subject slightly but keeping it in the domestic realm, what's my best option for a cupcake frosting that'll hold up decently in 85-ish degree weather?

Dylan's turning 1 on Saturday (eep!!!) and I'm making him chocolate cupcakes. They don't necessarily need to be outdoors the entire party, but my kitchen isn't air-conditioned either.

I do not pretend to understand the not-getting-up thing. The eating in the theater thing, I blame on the big touring shows, actually. Their target demographic is accustomed to going to the movies instead of the theater, and so the theaters started letting people bring refreshments in. It Bothers me greatly, but that's the current practice.

That's just nuts. The whole point of going to the theater is that it's a Big Deal! It costs a lot of money! You should dress up! And not have a goddamned snack! You should have a nice dinner beforehand!

Fucking people, I swear.

Kinda what I thought the article would say. I get so upset when I go to my parents' and see the same division of labor as when my dad worked. It infuriates me.

And I know it would infuriate me in a relationship of my own. My expectations are already too high on the childcare front when we are visiting family - I expect 100% coverage on the first few days and that is crazy.

It would be interesting to know if many men had house cleaning chores growing up. My brother did, but my cousins did not.

single moms

eh not that it is not hard, but - I just do less time intense stuff. mac's dinners are mostly things I can heat up in the microwave, I rarely make him from scratch meals. And I pay someone to come in and clean my house every other week - that is often the only cleaning that gets done save dishes and litter boxes.

So changing the subject slightly but keeping it in the domestic realm, what's my best option for a cupcake frosting that'll hold up decently in 85-ish degree weather?

Fondant.

Oo, must read the article. Sad to say, those averages don't surprise me at all.

I think in our house the housework as they define probably fits with their two working parents model. We don't share the housework equally, but then we also don't share the work of remodeling equally--I didn't do any work to put up the fence, or much in the way of the painting, etc. DH has done a HUGE amount there.

But we are more equitable in our sharing of the childcare than the average, at least based on that article. I do the bulk of the cooking and feeding and the dressing, he does the bulk of the bathing and the sunscreen slathering, and bedtime is usually shared.

Fucking people, I swear.

Yes. Plus it didn't help that one of the reasons the woman at the end of the row didn't get up was that she was on her iPhone, basically ignoring her young daughter that she was out with.

IO(catty)N, the daughter was dressed appropriately, but the woman was wearing a dress that went to about mid-thigh. Sigh.

Also, I highly recommended the VIP room at the Orpheum. You know, when your sister's paying for it.

also playing with a kid is work, not at all always fun, least of all when you don't want to.