So, Dh's brother (the youngest of the four--12 years younger) has been going through a very messy divorce. VERY messy, like the wife taking money for their house payments and secretly keeping it so the place went into foreclosure. He is on the other side of the country from the rest of the family and has never been good about calling--doesn't have a cellphone so the only way to reach him was at the resaurant where he was head chef. We got him a cellphone last year, but he never answered it only checked messages sporadically.
Finally, a few weeks ago he called and asked for help getting out of there. One sister wired him $5,000, we got him a plane ticket and then...he disappeared. Stopped going to work, his cell message box was filled. After calling the police and tracking down old friends, it turns out that he is addicted to Oxycontin. We don't know how long this has been going on. We don't know how much he has told us is true. And we still don't know where he is.
{{Scrappy and family}} How awful for all. Do they have children?
I love the race options on tricking the kids into cooperation. 1. Avoid the challenge/fight whenever and however possible. Games and trickery are wonderful ways to avoid the fight. 2. If threats are required, make good on them no matter what. I hate when I have to be grounded because my kids are grounded, but it happens.
(now how many minutes before this one posts?) Silly slow board.
Oh, Scrappy. That is so scary. So much ~ma and prayers to your whole family.
{{scrappy}}
Ugh-- what a horrible, horrible thing to discover.
With respect to the kiddies, I was very big on consequences of actions. It takes but a few times of enacting a consequence before they realize you mean business and while they might test you, it's rarely far enough that you need to act again.
I still remember one time when the Hub was enacting the discipline when I wasn't home and he turned off the television in response to some snit Abby was having. She stormed off to her room, all of three years old, bellowing, "You'll all PAY! I'll never watch TV ever again!! You'll SEE! You'll all PAY!!"
I have never laughed quite so hard my entire life.
So much ~ma for your family, Scrappy.
Big ~ma to Scrappy and family. I hope he turns up soon and is ready to be helped.
Hey y'all. Been working pretty steadily today, yay.
Barb, you look gorgeous in that dress!
I, uh, read the rest but anything else I wanted to say fell out of my brain.
Much ~ma to you and yours, Scrappy.
Oh, Scrappy. How horrible.
I'm finding a combination of techniques from Positive Discipline for Preschoolers (I think that's the title) and 1-2-3 Magic.
Works fairly well. We do a lot of the races to do things and the whole, "Oh-oh! Did you forget how to put on shoes? I think Lillian forgot how!" discussing.
The Positive Discipline book is very good for modeling behaviors and for cooling your own self down when getting stressed.
