Not a parent, so take my advice with a grain of salt, but what I've really gotten to work with my after care kids is to give them time limit warnings on things. So, for instance. It's time to put shoes on, but they're finishing reading a book: "Janie, in one minute you have to put the book down and put your shoes on." Thirty seconds later, "Janie, you have 30 seconds."
Speaking of after care, the new principal just called to see if I'd be interested in "teaching" again this fall. YAY! I didn't know if I'd get asked back since the principal left.
I've also heard of making getting ready to go in the morning into a race (and the winner gets a sticker, or first choice of music in the car or whatever), though that one probably works better when you're dealing with multiple kids.
Not sure whether this would be at all practical, but with one kid you could still have it be a race if you had a piece of music on your iPod? I used to give my kids a short piece of music and they knew that they had to tidy up the classroom by the end of the piece? (It was the
Dastardly and Mutley
tune "Stop the Pigeon", which led to much wild bouncing around and dancing whilst tidying. Um. And the kids gyrated a bit too. Um.) Anyway, I'd have thought that could work with one kid too, maybe?
So, Dh's brother (the youngest of the four--12 years younger) has been going through a very messy divorce. VERY messy, like the wife taking money for their house payments and secretly keeping it so the place went into foreclosure. He is on the other side of the country from the rest of the family and has never been good about calling--doesn't have a cellphone so the only way to reach him was at the resaurant where he was head chef. We got him a cellphone last year, but he never answered it only checked messages sporadically.
Finally, a few weeks ago he called and asked for help getting out of there. One sister wired him $5,000, we got him a plane ticket and then...he disappeared. Stopped going to work, his cell message box was filled. After calling the police and tracking down old friends, it turns out that he is addicted to Oxycontin. We don't know how long this has been going on. We don't know how much he has told us is true. And we still don't know where he is.
{{Scrappy and family}} How awful for all. Do they have children?
I love the race options on tricking the kids into cooperation. 1. Avoid the challenge/fight whenever and however possible. Games and trickery are wonderful ways to avoid the fight. 2. If threats are required, make good on them no matter what. I hate when I have to be grounded because my kids are grounded, but it happens.
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Oh, Scrappy. That is so scary. So much ~ma and prayers to your whole family.
{{scrappy}}
Ugh-- what a horrible, horrible thing to discover.
With respect to the kiddies, I was very big on consequences of actions. It takes but a few times of enacting a consequence before they realize you mean business and while they might test you, it's rarely far enough that you need to act again.
I still remember one time when the Hub was enacting the discipline when I wasn't home and he turned off the television in response to some snit Abby was having. She stormed off to her room, all of three years old, bellowing, "You'll all PAY! I'll never watch TV ever again!! You'll SEE! You'll all PAY!!"
I have never laughed quite so hard my entire life.
