Can y'all tell me if this is evil, too evil, or sweet justice?

BFF's shitty boyfriend (SB from now on) knows some people I know who aren't in BFF and my little circle. I know some stuff from those people SB wouldn't want BFF to know. Things he's lied about. Now, I could just tell her, but he's pretty good with the lying, and she doesn't want to rock the boat, so she'll just accept what he says.

However, A Thing will be happening next month that I know BFF will attend. People throwing the Thing have said I am most certainly allowed to invite people out of the circle-which would include the people who know stuff.

Do I do it, or leave it?

DJ, is this something she's going to find out about eventually? and will finding it out at The Thing be more painful? I'd say think about it and go with whatever will be least painful and/or embarrassing for her.

Going to go home - 'night sweet Buffistas!

DJ, is this something she's going to find out about eventually? and will finding it out at The Thing be more painful? I'd say think about it and go with whatever will be least painful and/or embarrassing for her.

yeah, if it's really something you think she should know you should just tell her. If not, leave it.

This isn't the same guy who was really inappropriate at your company party months ago, is it??? if so, why is he still around?!?!

I think it will be most painful when she realizes she's moved across the country with a total douchebag who lies and cheats.

Yes! It's him! And not my company an industry-wide awards banquet with one of her major client's VP.

This is why I'm not sure anything short of, "Hi, my name is T, this is C and this is K. Oh you are dating him. Why no, I didn't know that since a few months ago he was practically dragging me from a concert to go home with him."

Will it even change her mind? If she finds out you manipulated the situation, will she understand where it comes from. Or , if it is a question of her saftey, can you risk no longer being her friend?

I would say something along lines of " you know I don't like him, I think this is a bad idea . I know thing about evilguy, but I also know you aren't ready to listen. You need help, call"

All previous people seemed to think that a deadline was kind of a vague idea of when something should be done, and missing it was no big deal.

If you also throw in micro-managing, this is my boss.

I don't know if it will or not, but she'll have a harder time ignoring it.

See, she hides stuff from us so that she won't have to admit he's a douche so she doesn't look dumb for being with him.

If it were me and my BF knew my boyfriend were cheating on me, I'd want that friend to tell me.

I'm with Burrell. I'd be really upset with a manipulated situation.