Well, you'd better not be thinking what I think you're thinking, because my answer is the same as always — no threesomes unless it's boy-boy-girl. Or Charlize Theron.

Harmony ,'First Date'


Spike's Bitches 41: Thrown together to stand against the forces of darkness  

[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.


Toddson - Jul 28, 2008 1:56:45 pm PDT #9015 of 10001
Friends don't let friends read "Atlas Shrugged"

DJ, is this something she's going to find out about eventually? and will finding it out at The Thing be more painful? I'd say think about it and go with whatever will be least painful and/or embarrassing for her.

Going to go home - 'night sweet Buffistas!


lisah - Jul 28, 2008 2:01:08 pm PDT #9016 of 10001
Punishingly Intricate

DJ, is this something she's going to find out about eventually? and will finding it out at The Thing be more painful? I'd say think about it and go with whatever will be least painful and/or embarrassing for her.

yeah, if it's really something you think she should know you should just tell her. If not, leave it.

This isn't the same guy who was really inappropriate at your company party months ago, is it??? if so, why is he still around?!?!


Daisy Jane - Jul 28, 2008 2:02:08 pm PDT #9017 of 10001
"This bar smells like kerosene and stripper tears."

I think it will be most painful when she realizes she's moved across the country with a total douchebag who lies and cheats.


Daisy Jane - Jul 28, 2008 2:12:59 pm PDT #9018 of 10001
"This bar smells like kerosene and stripper tears."

Yes! It's him! And not my company an industry-wide awards banquet with one of her major client's VP.

This is why I'm not sure anything short of, "Hi, my name is T, this is C and this is K. Oh you are dating him. Why no, I didn't know that since a few months ago he was practically dragging me from a concert to go home with him."


beth b - Jul 28, 2008 2:13:34 pm PDT #9019 of 10001
oh joy! Oh Rapture ! I have a brain!

Will it even change her mind? If she finds out you manipulated the situation, will she understand where it comes from. Or , if it is a question of her saftey, can you risk no longer being her friend?

I would say something along lines of " you know I don't like him, I think this is a bad idea . I know thing about evilguy, but I also know you aren't ready to listen. You need help, call"


megan walker - Jul 28, 2008 2:15:34 pm PDT #9020 of 10001
"What kind of magical sunshine and lollipop world do you live in? Because you need to be medicated."-SFist

All previous people seemed to think that a deadline was kind of a vague idea of when something should be done, and missing it was no big deal.

If you also throw in micro-managing, this is my boss.


Daisy Jane - Jul 28, 2008 2:16:34 pm PDT #9021 of 10001
"This bar smells like kerosene and stripper tears."

I don't know if it will or not, but she'll have a harder time ignoring it.

See, she hides stuff from us so that she won't have to admit he's a douche so she doesn't look dumb for being with him.


Burrell - Jul 28, 2008 2:19:21 pm PDT #9022 of 10001
Why did Darth Vader cross the road? To get to the Dark Side!

If it were me and my BF knew my boyfriend were cheating on me, I'd want that friend to tell me.


vw bug - Jul 28, 2008 2:20:05 pm PDT #9023 of 10001
Mostly lurking...

I'm with Burrell. I'd be really upset with a manipulated situation.


Vortex - Jul 28, 2008 2:22:26 pm PDT #9024 of 10001
"Cry havoc and let slip the boobs of war!" -- Miracleman

I would LOVE to just say "hey, you didn't get your stuff in on time, you don't get to present", but that would cause a world of shit.