Heh. I chose E--drink coffee and crop/upload pictures.

Here is my PCP's quilt, all finished! [link]

DH loves that I usually wear my hair long. A few years ago it was past my waist and I decided to cut about 12 inches off and donate it. My hair reached my shoulder blades after and was in a cute cut. DH HATED it.

Now it is near my waist, again. My stylist cuts some longish layers into it to help give it some shape, and because it's pretty thick and has natural body. (I do wish my hair was curlier or in ringlets.) I like being able to do my hair in various styles. I find I spend more time on it when it's short and then seem to be perpetually growing it out.

The school would frown on a teacher dying their hair an unusual color (they barely tolerate it in the students!); however, I did have deep red hi-lights a few years ago and no one said anything. The old art teacher would always dye a streak of her hair red, pink, blue, green or orange and the administration usually ignored it.

DH keeps mentioning me dying my hair black; however, my stylist keeps saying he things it would be too harsh. Instead we go as dark brown as possible (a shade or two darker than my natural) and sometimes add some red in for depth. The gray's seems to bother me more than anything. No one else seems to see them. DH has beautiful 'salt and pepper' hair...if I knew mine would look like that I'd welcome going gray!

It's weird, the number of men who think short hair on women is appalling. Not just not attractive on that particular woman, but philosophically inadvisable.

Yeah, was (am?) married to one of those. He HATED it when I got it cut short. Became one of thee zillion things we just didn't talk about.

I thought I liked my hair long until I chopped it. Now I love it short. I'm "growing it out" but not by much. I had it really short for a while and now I want a little bounce.

I am SO. DARNED. TIRED.

Or maybe they just like having long hair. A lot of people actually do.

Raises hand...I do!

I'm gonna re-lock this in a minute, but I had to share.

So, the I took the little girl I'm watching this week to the Museum of Science yesterday. She loved it THIS much!

Someone posited the theory that women with short hair were displaying "too much" independence by refusing to spend the extra time and energy that taking care of long hair requires (YTime/EnergyMV) and that it was a sign of pernicious feminism and assault against The Way Things Should Be(TM).

Hubby says deep down men want something to grab their woman by to drag them to the cave. I tell him he was raised by wolves and not fit for polite society. He smiles and says, "Of course I was, you met my mother."

My own hair stops looking healthy and happy just past my shoulders. If I grow it out to the bottom of my shoulderblades, it gets tatty. Down to mid-back, and the last 9 inches are a split-ended raggedy thinning mess.

JZ is me. I definitely felt the pressure to have long hair and desperately tried to achieve it many times, but it just doesn't suit me.

Or maybe they just like having long hair. A lot of people actually do.

Though, again, every time I've seen you and every picture of you that I've seen -- you have great long hair. It's healthy, it's shiny, the ends are even, it has shape and it bounces and sways and moves when you do, and you know how to put it up and how to make it look good when it's down. A lot of the women on WNTW are like me--whether or not they like having long hair, their heads are clearly incapable of growing long hair that looks like anything but ass. I really did love my long hair, but eventually I had to admit that the best I could ever manage with it was Ehn, okay. And I didn't love my long hair more than I loved feeling like I looked really pretty and polished and put-together.

That's the baffling part, that someone would prefer indifferent or, sometimes, outright ugly and uglifying hair to healthy and pretty hair.

There are women on WNTW with ratted-out, broken, product-damaged hair that's practically breaking off in the stylist's hands as he touches it, women who look markedly more gorgeous when he just pulls their hair back away from their faces, and they still flip out at the suggestion of anything more than a trim. And, 95% of the time, if they do submit to a drastic cut (usually still at or below the shoulder, so still not short), they end up loving it, tearing up, and saying they feel free. One woman, in mid-cut, said, "I feel like I've been waiting all my life to have the nerve to do this."

Sometimes it's definitely just loving having long hair, but, as Plei noted, sometimes there's also a lot of difficult baggage attached.

I had long hair until eighth grade. My parents wouldn't let me cut it, and I hated it long. It was thick and heavy and snarled too easily. I finally convinced them to let me cut it about the same time I started wearing pants and got my ears pierced. I think it was the start of my downfall into sin and rebellion and the start of them realizing it was futile to fight me. Go me. Or something.

women with short hair were displaying "too much" independence by refusing to spend the extra time and energy that taking care of long hair requires (YTime/EnergyMV) and that it was a sign of pernicious feminism

I've been thinking I need a new tag line. "Pernicious feminist" seems just about right. Thanks!