Someone posited the theory that women with short hair were displaying "too much" independence by refusing to spend the extra time and energy that taking care of long hair requires (YTime/EnergyMV) and that it was a sign of pernicious feminism and assault against The Way Things Should Be(TM).
Hubby says deep down men want something to grab their woman by to drag them to the cave. I tell him he was raised by wolves and not fit for polite society. He smiles and says, "Of course I was, you met my mother."
My own hair stops looking healthy and happy just past my shoulders. If I grow it out to the bottom of my shoulderblades, it gets tatty. Down to mid-back, and the last 9 inches are a split-ended raggedy thinning mess.
JZ is me. I definitely felt the pressure to have long hair and desperately tried to achieve it many times, but it just doesn't suit me.
Or maybe they just like having long hair. A lot of people actually do.
Though, again, every time I've seen you and every picture of you that I've seen -- you have
great
long hair. It's healthy, it's shiny, the ends are even, it has shape and it bounces and sways and moves when you do, and you know how to put it up and how to make it look good when it's down. A lot of the women on WNTW are like me--whether or not they
like
having long hair, their heads are clearly incapable of growing long hair that looks like anything but ass. I really did love my long hair, but eventually I had to admit that the best I could ever manage with it was
Ehn, okay.
And I didn't love my long hair more than I loved feeling like I looked really pretty and polished and put-together.
That's the baffling part, that someone would prefer indifferent or, sometimes, outright ugly and uglifying hair to healthy and pretty hair.
There are women on WNTW with ratted-out, broken, product-damaged hair that's practically breaking off in the stylist's hands as he touches it, women who look markedly more gorgeous when he just pulls their hair back away from their faces, and they still flip out at the suggestion of anything more than a trim. And, 95% of the time, if they do submit to a drastic cut (usually still at or below the shoulder, so still not short), they end up loving it, tearing up, and saying they feel free. One woman, in mid-cut, said, "I feel like I've been waiting all my life to have the nerve to do this."
Sometimes it's definitely just loving having long hair, but, as Plei noted, sometimes there's also a lot of difficult baggage attached.
I had long hair until eighth grade. My parents wouldn't let me cut it, and I hated it long. It was thick and heavy and snarled too easily. I finally convinced them to let me cut it about the same time I started wearing pants and got my ears pierced. I think it was the start of my downfall into sin and rebellion and the start of them realizing it was futile to fight me. Go me. Or something.
women with short hair were displaying "too much" independence by refusing to spend the extra time and energy that taking care of long hair requires (YTime/EnergyMV) and that it was a sign of pernicious feminism
I've been thinking I need a new tag line. "Pernicious feminist" seems just about right. Thanks!
I had some really bad short haircuts as a kid. So I kept my hair long for quite a while-- I look younger with shorter hair. And at the moment -- the grey 'roots' ar eover 2 inches long
Trying to decide if I will dye it, or leave it alone, or go to someone for low lights ,or have my regular hair dresser come here and dye it. I don't really enjoy the process of dying very much
My mom told me that a short haircut combined with my round physique would make me look like a pinhead. (And she wasn't even a Ramones fan.) Eventually I got a chic, sassy, short bob, and tons of complements. So naturally mom denied ever suggesting such a possibility as pinhead-dom.
For a lot of women I see on WNTW, long hair seems to equate with "youth." They think cutting it will consign them to matronliness or something. Silly Ladies, don't you know that Nick Arrojo AKA Mr. AWESOME IRISH GENIUS CUTIEHEAD will use his magic skills to make you look amazing?
Part of the WNTW concept is to make a drastic change, too. If they came all that way and didn't get a good hair cut, the whole premise would fail and Clinton and Stacy would be out of jobs.
Nick tries to convince them to do what would look best on them. It is true, though, that if they are strongly committed to keeping their hair he will keep it below the shoulder and chop off all the ratty garbage. I think there was 1 time, though, that she would not let him cut her hair, not even a trim. He wasn't happy but he did it. (that hair would have looked so much better if she had trimmed even 4-5 inches)
