American Pie came out around 1999, Stacy's Mom around 2003 or 2004.

I wouldn't call that a big gap in terms of cultural trends.

I don't want to go to a 4 hour meeting.

But I really should.

I had a serious meltdown this morning in therapy, and I still feel like crap. I feel like I'm so fucked up right now.

Tonight there's a party I'm supposed to go to, and even though things have been cooling down with the girl I've been seeing, I still ought to arrange a date for this weekend. But now I don't know if I wanna even try.

Tom, if you're feeling like crap this is not the moment to arrange a date (or think about arranging one). This is the moment to take care of yourself so you can stop feeling like crap and start feeling like Tom, the guy with the great smile.

((Tom))

Ack, Tom. Meltdowns suck. Just having one fucks me up; I mean, I feel fucked up from having the meltdown, regardless of the content of/reason behind the meltdown. Throw in the content, and there's not enough Ativan in the world.

You're not fucked up. Not moreso than anyone else. And you can tell me that's bullshit, that you have levels of fucked-upped-ness that have yet to be uncovered, and still I say: *everyone* is fucked-up, just in different ways. But not everyone does something about it, but *you* are. That right there mitigates the fucked-upped-ness.

And it sucks big time that the "doing something" is so goddamned painful. It's not fair. If you're willing to deal with your fucked-upped-ness, the tradeoff should be that doing so doesn't fuck you up worse. I'm sorry it's so hard. (And you know what I'm going to say, which is: it's still worth it in the end. Plus the bonus of: you've really made progress, which I hope you can see even if you feel like shit right now.)

The therapy meltdown aftermath feels like an emotional hangover, doesn't it? Did you have lunch? I know that sounds facile, but if I'm hungry, then everything gets magnified. A full stomach can help.

As for tonight/this weekend, you have time to let your decision go unmade. For at least a few hours.

{{{{Tom}}}} Steph and Sparky both have great advice.

Also, I've seen both Jamie Lee Curtis and Anderson Cooper referred to as a silver fox, so I tend to think of it as a gender-neutral term. As it should be.

Tom, Steph and Sparky have good advice, take care of yourself. And sometimes you have to have those breakdowns to get to the breakthroughs.

Sparky and Steph are both wise, Scola. We're all fucked up, my friend.

If it helps, try to focus on the fact that you are deeply loved by a lot of cool, witty, intelligent, attractive people. All of whom think you're cool, witty, intelligent and attractive.

Teppy is wise.