Spike's Bitches 40: Buckle Up, Kids! Daddy's Puttin' the Hammer Down.
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Wow. I just keep thinking, how awful for the kid whose parents and therapist are forcing him to give up everything "girl"-related -- he's growing up being told by literally everyone that, at his very core, he is fundamentally *wrong.*
I want to smack that therapist so hard right now. That poor, poor kid.
I would have been fine with any gender identity for Lillian. A bit baffled that she's so Aggro Girl, but if she'd wanted to dress in jeans and a tee shirt, play with trucks 24/7, and have us call her our son Liam, I'd have done it in a heartbeat.
I'm listening to this story on transgender kids
Oh man. I just *read* the story, rather than listen to it, and that's so upsetting, the poor kid having his toys taken away and told he can't like pink, and all that jazz. YEESH.
I mean, I don't think that we should be labeling kids as transgender at age 3 necessarily, but....until you get to puberty and hormones and all that, nothing is irreversible!! So today he wants to be she and wear a dress, great. Maybe it's a phase, and the kid'll grow out of it and be totally normal by age 8. Maybe it's a phase and the kid isn't transgender, but is just gay, and is having a hard time identifying with the stereotypes of masculinity and femininity s/he is seeing presented (ie, it's ok to be a swishy boy, or a softball playing girl, but sometimes kids don't get that if they dont' see it, and just go whole hog to "I wanna be [other gender]". But seriously! Just let the kid do it, and it won't fuck him or her up like enforcing gender sterotypes will! Save yourself the therapy money!
Wow. I just keep thinking, how awful for the kid whose parents and therapist are forcing him to give up everything "girl"-related -- he's growing up being told by literally everyone that, at his very core, he is fundamentally *wrong.*
That's heart-breaking.
Yes. I can't imagine watching my child suffer like that and forcing him to hide who he is. He'll never trust his parents as he gets older.
No, Gar is in Olympia Wa. Was i Portland Or at one point, but no longer. Did visit Eugene - looked like a very pretty town , but active with lots to do as well. Not there long enough to be certain about the last part.
yes, we have the frappr. But, I cant figure out how to move myself.
Wow. I just keep thinking, how awful for the kid whose parents and therapist are forcing him to give up everything "girl"-related -- he's growing up being told by literally everyone that, at his very core, he is fundamentally *wrong.*
I want to smack that therapist so hard right now. That poor, poor kid.
And then, I think, parents just want what's best for their kids, and I can't fault parents who don't want their kid to go through years of hell being tormented for being trans. Or killed for it.
The whole thing sucks so badly.
I think that if I had a transgendered kid, I wouldn't try to stop them from playing with opposite sex toys, but I would insist on some equal time for "gender appropriate" toys.
I think that if I had a transgendered kid, I wouldn't try to stop them from playing with opposite sex toys, but I would insist on some equal time for "gender appropriate" toys.
Well, and I feel bad, because clearly those parents mean well, and were willing to let their son play with barbies and all, so they're just following what the supposed "expert" is doing.
I'm also wondering why he has this cutoff of ten years old. At nine it's OK to train them out of it, but at eleven, the kid knows their mind?? WTF?
Happy Birthday GC!!!!
Kristin, that is great news!
I agree, at that age, it might just be a phase. And wouldn't that much NEGATIVE attention to the issue just push the kid more into it, to rebel? I dunno. I think the whole "no cookies" thing. Then again, I am not a parent. Either way, sad.
ok, all the time I have for. Busy day at work, AND it seems a pressure valve might have been released from my head-explodeyness. I might be able to report some stuff.
The Frappr map is still about. Gus's is still live too, but it's more limited in terms of countries covered.