On the way home, I got stuck behind an SUV that had a huge decal on the back window that said "in Loving memory of Tim Gxxx 11/3/1983 to 6/5/1984."
Is that really weird to anyone else?
I wanna die in bed surrounded by fat grandchildren, but guess that's off the menu.
Jenny ,'Bring On The Night'
Natter 57 Varieties
Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.
Lee - Apr 02, 2008 5:42:47 pm PDT #9017 of 10001
The feeling you get when your brain finally lets your heart get in its pants.
Jesse - Apr 02, 2008 5:47:42 pm PDT #9018 of 10001
Sometimes I trip on how happy we could be.
Yeah, that seems weird.
I can't think about my parents anymore. Bad enough my grandmother's going to die.
§ ita § - Apr 02, 2008 5:49:55 pm PDT #9019 of 10001
Well not canonically, no, but this is transformative fiction.
Yes, Perkins. I get really weirded out when cars are used to announce things that I assume are deeply personal.
I'm not having the talk this weekend with my parents because my mother and sister aren't talking, and everyone in the family is all het up about my medical straits anyway.
megan walker - Apr 02, 2008 5:54:16 pm PDT #9020 of 10001
"What kind of magical sunshine and lollipop world do you live in? Because you need to be medicated."-SFist
I know I'll pose The Question to them this sunday
Which question is that?
Jesse - Apr 02, 2008 5:55:35 pm PDT #9021 of 10001
Sometimes I trip on how happy we could be.
ita, how are you feeling regarding the diet mods?
sarameg - Apr 02, 2008 5:58:59 pm PDT #9022 of 10001
I lost all my grandparents by 20. Hell, I'd lost 3/4 of them by '91, when I was 16. I saw the body of my paternal grandfather carried out at 11 and oooh boy that had repercussions I didn't expect (I'd have sleepovers where I'd wake up sobbing inconsolably for reasons I couldn't identify and mom had to come get me. And if I don't tell those I love that I love them before I end the conversation? It upsets me and wakes me up.)
Watching the discussion post-program has only made me want The Conversation more. As much as I'd rather it moot.
sarameg - Apr 02, 2008 6:08:42 pm PDT #9023 of 10001
Which question is that?
What the fuck are we supposed to do if you become physically and/or mentally incapacitated? Retirement home? Us? Hospice? What is your view on the whole living will thing? What are your lines in the sand, medically? What about your finances? Who controls them? What is the status of them? What is your ideal? What do you expect of us, your kids?
I've been my parents medical and financial executor, briefly, because my parents hadn't updated the will in too many years and my brother was still a theoretical being in it (I yelled at them to fix that.) I knew what it was for, and it was temporary. I vaguely know the state of the finances. The long term stuff is harder. I need to make sure that my brother and I are on the same page for the dire circumstances stuff.
megan walker - Apr 02, 2008 6:13:33 pm PDT #9024 of 10001
"What kind of magical sunshine and lollipop world do you live in? Because you need to be medicated."-SFist
I know that it's difficult but you need to talk about these things. I can't stress that enough.
Because having your parents get sick? Sucks. Having them die? Sucks even more. Knowing that you did exactly what they would have wanted you to do? Priceless.
tommyrot - Apr 02, 2008 6:17:07 pm PDT #9025 of 10001
Sir, it's not an offence to let your cat eat your bacon. Okay? And we don't arrest cats, I'm very sorry.
In more boring cat news: Nothing seems to confuse my cat as much as bubbles.
Perhaps we should have some cat-equivalent to Jilli-font. We could call it Hec-font.
sarameg - Apr 02, 2008 6:21:51 pm PDT #9026 of 10001
I know I need too. I'm determined to. And I also know I'm lucky I can confront my parents with this and they'll do what is necessary. And we'll all do that. I hope we're lucky that in most of those issues, we agree. I think. Hence the need for The Conversation. I don't want to alienate Mom, Dad or my brother in something so awful.
But man, it's morbid.