I have fantasy shopped a fair stack of goodness at title nine, yet again. (they seem to have the only sports bra I can actually exercise in without giving myself a chin-first concussion). Now, if I buy some of this, does it mean that I will (should, might, whatever) get back into regularly scheduled exercise out of inspiration, or guilt?

If you decide to go back to your old job for a while, JZ, it will be, at most, a strategic retreat in order to regroup. Your old boss knows that you'll ultimately need a different job, and he seems to have been supportive.

Ginger makes a very good point here.

{{JZ}} What they all said. I'm sorry for the shock and hurt you are feeling right now, but clearly you need to run as fast as possible away from this place and put the memory behind you. I've been working for 35 years or so and it has been my experience 100% of the time that the failure to communicate the expectations of the position is the employers fault. If at any point they had expressed a major issue with your work you would have noticed, unless of course you were supposed to be a mind reader. Communication may be a two way street, but the primary responsibility for expressing expectations logically belongs with the employer.

They are unworthy. There will be another opportunity where you will be appreciated. Bask in the loving support of those around you. I wish I could hug you in person.

JZ, I'm so sorry to hear that. It's unbelievable. My beliefery is gobsmackified. It's stuck on "They don't want JZ there anymore? How does that even work?"

Incidentally, I would run screaming from a boss who expected to be able to 'read me'. I come to work for a paycheque, not dimestore psychoanalysis.

Take care of yourself. This was their problem. It sucks that it puts you in a difficult spot now, and sucks even more that they try to put it on you (incidentally, I would run screaming from a boss who expected to be able to 'read me'. I come to work for a paycheque, not dimestore psychoanalysis), but three months from now you'll be better off without having to deal with them.

JZ, aside from the gobsmack I want to reinforce that the reasons they gave are totally out of line. Also there is no way they could have said something about it without you noticing it. It sounds to me like they blame you for two things:

1) being unable to read their minds

2) them being unable to read your minds.

In a way it makes sense that if both projective and receptive telepathy are requirements that they be unspoken one...

In bizarro world, that is.

The people who said they are covering for something are 100% right.

Oh lord -- I just got an email from a friend who was stuck all last weekend dealing with state budget issues in Albany, with reporters outside her office. She points out that this Spitzer thing is just exactly what she didn't need right now.

Incidentally, I would run screaming from a boss who expected to be able to 'read me'. I come to work for a paycheque, not dimestore psychoanalysis.

ITA. Or if I didn't, I'm sure they'd fire my ass a week or two after they hired me....

Also, I often wish I were less readable in the first few months of a new job, since what there is to read most of the time is "oh shit oh shit what am I doing here?" FTR.

JZ, I'm so sorry to hear that. It's unbelievable. My beliefery is gobsmackified. It's stuck on "They don't want JZ there anymore? How does that even work?"

I'm just going to point at what billytea said. So not a failure on your part, JZ.

Happy birthday, tommyrot!