Well, look who just popped open a fresh can of venom.

Xander ,'Empty Places'


Spike's Bitches 39: Cuppa Tea, Cuppa Tea, Almost Got Shagged, Cuppa Tea...  

[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.


-t - Feb 12, 2008 10:28:37 am PST #6238 of 10001
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration

Wii! Woo!


beekaytee - Feb 12, 2008 10:41:39 am PST #6239 of 10001
Compassionately intolerant

except for the fact that he sent me a card that said "I wouldn't even have sent this, but I knew you'd be mad if I didn't do anything"

The last boyfriend did this. It was as crass as it was incorrect...which sort of underlined the whole "I'm not really bothering to know you" phenom with a line brighter than I could ignore.

Don't get me wrong. I've had some truly lovely VDay, Bday and anniversary events in my life. The great stuff of stories. I just object to the forced march of commercial romance. If you don't feel it, you don't feel it. Pretending you do is such a waste.

I'm right next to Vortex and Maria watching the Jared store burn. The Leo diamond? Why do I even KNOW about that? Brainwashing. That's why.


Atropa - Feb 12, 2008 10:51:14 am PST #6240 of 10001
The artist formerly associated with cupcakes.

Hey, how do people shake off the unsettled feeling after a really bad nightmare? My brain was very evil to me last night, and I am *still* feeling twitchy and scattered.


Vortex - Feb 12, 2008 10:52:42 am PST #6241 of 10001
"Cry havoc and let slip the boobs of war!" -- Miracleman

Well, it was one of the reasons why he wasn't the guy I was going to spend the rest of my life with. He was a wonderful guy would bring flowers unexpectedly, etc. but, to him, his "principle" that VD was crap was more important than my feelings.


Vortex - Feb 12, 2008 10:57:13 am PST #6242 of 10001
"Cry havoc and let slip the boobs of war!" -- Miracleman

Hey, how do people shake off the unsettled feeling after a really bad nightmare?

I get into a safe space, close my eyes and try to remember the nightmare. For me, the thing that's scariest is the unknown, so if I can pin it down, I feel better. I am always scaredest of that thing hovering just beyound vison, perception. YNMV.


JZ - Feb 12, 2008 10:58:09 am PST #6243 of 10001
See? I gave everybody here an opportunity to tell me what a bad person I am and nobody did, because I fuckin' rule.

Hey, how do people shake off the unsettled feeling after a really bad nightmare? My brain was very evil to me last night, and I am *still* feeling twitchy and scattered.

I listen to "Starfish and Coffee" by Prince and "Spirit Voices" by Paul Simon a good half-dozen times each, and then I read the chapter in A Little Princess where Sara awakes from a sorrowful sleep after a wretched and cruel evening, and finds her miserable little garret transformed by unseen, loving hands into a snug, cozy wonderland of late-night tea and comfort. All that, and a cup of cocoa if the weather is appropriate, provide some degree of antidote to brain-venom. I'm very sorry your brain mistreated you so badly last night. May tonight be worlds better.


beth b - Feb 12, 2008 11:06:00 am PST #6244 of 10001
oh joy! Oh Rapture ! I have a brain!

"principle" that VD was crap was more important than my feeling

That's a sign - esp when your talking valentine's day - I think your immortal soul is not in any danger if you come to a compromise on this one


lisah - Feb 12, 2008 11:06:36 am PST #6245 of 10001
Punishingly Intricate

I read the chapter in A Little Princess where Sara awakes from a sorrowful sleep after a wretched and cruel evening, and finds her miserable little garret transformed by unseen, loving hands into a snug, cozy wonderland of late-night tea and comfort.

oh man that just made me cry.


Volans - Feb 12, 2008 11:07:03 am PST #6246 of 10001
move out and draw fire

I am terrible at shaking off nightmares. My inability to do so is legend.

Ah yes, Valentine's Day. Yet another thing to thank the Victorians for - a whole day dedicated to making everybody feel like crap.

I am off to vote. I think I've made a decision. It was tough, because I'm still waiting for a candidate to step up and say "If elected, I will abolish the Department of Homeland Security and all its subsidiary organizations immediately. Seriously, January 21, 2009, they are GONE."

...maybe I'll run for President. "A marzipan in every pieplate."


beekaytee - Feb 12, 2008 11:08:19 am PST #6247 of 10001
Compassionately intolerant

Hey, how do people shake off the unsettled feeling after a really bad nightmare? My brain was very evil to me last night, and I am *still* feeling twitchy and scattered.

Lots of water, doing what Vortex suggests in terms 'what we can see becomes smaller'...sometimes I'll draw what I saw or tell the story outloud (to no one in particular) so that it becomes more in-the-moment and suffers the clear light of day. Then? A healthy dose of cuteoverload.