Oh yeah, one of my personal non-favorites. Stand with me in parental solidarity even if you don't agree! I try and pick my battles, alas they are usually not the same battles that DH would prefer to pick.

I read once that french fries were the worst food that Americans eat. I don't know, but yeah, potatoes are not great.

I can believe that, with the nutritional value (or lack thereof) and the fat they're cooked in. That's why they should be cooked in duck fat.

I was ready to kill someone and use their skull as a rice cooker.

words cannot express how much I love this statement.

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That's why they should be cooked in duck fat.

This may just be the best idea EVAR.

Oh yeah, one of my personal non-favorites. Stand with me in parental solidarity even if you don't agree!

I think that's what he's trying to do. In his mind, she's not standing with him because she's not telling the kids to keep the doors open.

I can believe that, with the nutritional value (or lack thereof) and the fat they're cooked in.

There's also some crazy chemical reaction that happens with potatoes when they're cooked to a certain temp that makes them super-duper bad for you. Oh french fries, why must you betray us so?

Thanks; Ginger. I'll call my doctor on Monday.

Oh yeah, one of my personal non-favorites. Stand with me in parental solidarity even if you don't agree!

I think that's what he's trying to do. In his mind, she's not standing with him because she's not telling the kids to keep the doors open.

Yes, I'm sure that's what he's feeling. I'd stand with him more readily if he could have a reasonable explanation of why something so minor bothers him so much. This is often the case with him and the kids. Because I spend 14 hours a day with them, I'm much more prone to let the little stuff slide and work on the big stuff. His time with them is more limited so he doesn't let anything slide.

Hazard of the SAHM job, I suppose.

It might not be a question of a little thing. It's a question of triggers. My sister cannot stand whistling. Can't stand it. So she forbids it. She thinks this is reasonable because it's a sound, and sounds are "by definition" disturbing. Some people don't like to hear babies cry. Personally it's never bothered me. Visual things sometimes bug me much more. I don't think it less of a legitimate complaint because it's visual, not aural.

ETA: This is not to say you're being unreasonable or anything, because I very much agree with this:

Either way, I'm not sure why you're involved.

I have my list of things I won't tolerate, but I'm also more relaxed in general. DH seems to expect a level of perfection I don't think is reasonable. People are going to parent differently just like kids are going to behave differently. It's fine with me if DH is tougher than me on some things, just don't ask me to be upset about something when it just doesn't bug me. Can't we just all get along!?!

Back to the dishes. And the laundry. So much to do.

Just an FYI, potatoes are very good sources of a number of vitamins and minerals. And they do not spike my blood sugar( diabetic- so yes I have tested) any more seriously then many others. They are not evil. However, french fries are another thing.

Various people seem to react very differently to foods - and for reasons. I am sensitive to carbohydrates - too many and I fall asleep. That's diabetes. Dh could never eat read meat and be happy - I get cravings for it . DH has 3x more iron in his blood than I do. Both DH and my sister K have to watch the amount of fat they eat, because they have sensitive stomach. But I don't have digestive problems from a high fat meal.

Cass , are the kids old enough to understand that there are different rules for different parents? For example, when my dad was home , there was no eating in front of the tv. But if dad was away, mom said it was ok. Maybe It can be part of the before dad comes home ritual- pick up the toys, start dinner , open the french doors.