My parents were adamant about not spanking.
Last night I popped my dog on the butt and my doorman said "Aww... don't hit her. Just tell her to stop." and I felt like a monster. He's probably right, when she makes that high-pitched yip there is just something so satisfying about the coresponding "whap" on her little tush (which
does
make it stop immediately)
But, yeah, I'll likely stop doing that.
My Mother's parents didn't spank at all. My Father's parents I think did a little with their older children -- they certainly never barked about my parents not spanking us though my Father's one brother did.
Happy birthday, CaBil!
I remembered it was Guy Fawkes day mostly because I watched V for Vendetta Saturday night.
Random question: Who here got spanked by their parents? ::raises hand:: Not too often, though. The last time was probably when I was eight-ish.
I wasn't spanked as a kid because my dad was supposed to do it and he would just hit the bed and tell me to cry like I'd been spanked when I left the room. He did have a way of holding my elbow or pinching the skin on my upper arm to get me to pay attention. Mostly he just had to look dissappointed in me to punish me.
Mom did slap me once a la FNL's Tami, but I'm sure I was doing/saying something fairly Julie-like.
I hope I didn't suggest that my dad was a monster about it. I think he did the best he could, all things considered (and those things being that his parents were almost certainly very cruel punishers, that he was still in his very early 20s when they had me, that he's not much of an independent thinker at his best, and, especially, that his only-slightly older brother abused his kids so much that it's taken years for them to have any sort of relationship with him).
Sometimes I like to troll craigslist looking at apartment listings. I just came accross one that says "We ask that all tenants provide us with a police report showing a clean record before we consider you as a tenant. ". Does that seem weird to anyone else. Also, how do you do that-- walk into the police station and have them print up nothing?
I was never spanked. Threatened to be spanked a lot. But mostly the sheer volume of my mother yelling at you made to stop whatever you were doing.
HAPPY BIRTHDAY, CaBil!!!!
I think I was spanked, but at an age too young to remember, and probably for something like running out in to the highway. My dad had a much more effective way of tearing me down verbally.
I hope I didn't suggest that my dad was a monster about it.
God, not at all. Sometimes I think the best (and hardest) thing anyone can do is to try to do better than their parents, no matter how "good" or "bad" their parents did.
Also- Happy Birthday CaBil!
sophia, I do think it is unusual but you can get a "no police record" from most police stations.
