I think I'll be cremated, have people be present for the actual incineration for which the actual music would be "smoke gets in your eyes". (Or maybe "we didn't start the fire".) I need to create a form that I update regularly, specifying into whose face my still smoldering ashes are actually tossed.
Mal: You tell me right now, little Kaylee, you really think you can do this? Kaylee: Sure. Yeah. I think so. 'Sides, if I mess up, not like you'll be able to yell at me.
'Bushwhacked'
Spike's Bitches 38: Well, This Is Just...Neat.
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
Typo Boy - Dec 17, 2007 7:31:51 pm PST #8821 of 10002
Calli: My people have a saying. A man who trusts can never be betrayed, only mistaken.Avon: Life expectancy among your people must be extremely short.
Laga - Dec 17, 2007 7:35:06 pm PST #8822 of 10002
You should know I'm a big deal in the Resistance.
We buried our Irish Wolfhound's ashes under a bush and it thrived. I wonder if the people who live in our old house now have any idea that both yards are the cemetaries for three dogs, three hamsters and assorted gerbils. My first rat Dieter's ashes are in my closet. I haven't yet found an urn that seemed fitting for him. He died in 1990 I think.
Cashmere - Dec 17, 2007 7:37:15 pm PST #8823 of 10002
Now tagless for your comfort.
erika, sorry you were dealing with crap from your dad. I would volunteer to come out there and cluestick him for you if it would help.
Aimee, glad you survived the wedding and Snowpocolypse!
DH and I are definitely in the cremation camp. I sort of like the emotional closure that funerals provide but DH wants no service--just a party.
My FiL doesn't want to donate his organs but my MiL had a brother who was saved by a liver transplant. I once heard her tell my FiL that nobody would ask him after he was dead and it was up to her to decide what to do about organ donation, if FiL died first.
The way I see it, these rituals aren't for the dead--they're for the living and I think that whatever makes my family feel better in the end is ok with me. I may leave requests but they're more guidelines than rules, in case anyone can't make a decision. But really, I don't think I'll care much.
I'm still secretly hoping for a viking funeral if they can pull if off, though.
Cashmere - Dec 17, 2007 7:37:58 pm PST #8824 of 10002
Now tagless for your comfort.
Oh, and I'm STILL in Cleveland. *sigh*
Laga - Dec 17, 2007 7:45:08 pm PST #8825 of 10002
You should know I'm a big deal in the Resistance.
Did you have a five way? Oh wait, that's Cincinnatti.
Cashmere - Dec 17, 2007 7:47:43 pm PST #8826 of 10002
Now tagless for your comfort.
We ate Vietnamese.
I've had wonderful hosts but I'm ready to be home.
-t - Dec 17, 2007 7:47:58 pm PST #8827 of 10002
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration
I think it's a good idea to leave instructions. Being able to say "this is what s/he wanted" during whatever is so comforting, even if it's not what you would personally choose.
erikaj - Dec 17, 2007 7:48:32 pm PST #8828 of 10002
Always Anti-fascist!
Yeah, Cashmere. I certainly understand not ALWAYS coming first. Once, however, would be nice and novel and assure me he gave a rat's ass.
Deena - Dec 17, 2007 7:50:35 pm PST #8829 of 10002
How are you me? You need to stop that. Only I can be me. ~Kara
There is, actually, a Skyline in my neighborhood, which probably isn't too far from where Cashmere is right now. Unfortunately, it's cold and dark and (knock wood) she gets to leave tomorrow and go home to her babies.
The weather sucked, but it was lovely to see everyone.
DavidS - Dec 17, 2007 7:50:43 pm PST #8830 of 10002
"Look, son, if it's good enough for Shirley Bassey, it's good enough for you."
Ray Cole on The Wire had the Pogues. Something with "American"in the title. That was a beautiful moment.
"The Body of An American" - another great song for a wake.