Spike ,'The Cautionary Tale of Numero Cinco'
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
Can you block him, Fay?
I signed up for OKCupid in a fit of being up too late (much like this one, except I'm scanning provocateuse pictures in lieu of fixing my RSS generator) and got into one IM chat with a guy who seemed to think I had room to flirt inside a discussion on the best ways of teaching unaggressive women to fight. So I'm not going back for a while.
Fay I don't think you're required to be more plain. When this happens to me I do not reply again.
Polite brevity?
No thanks. Sorry.
I'm going with this:
Oh dear. I think I haven't been clear enough.
I don't want to meet you. I don't think we have anything in common. I don't think that we have the same interests or values. I am really not tempted to go on a date with you.
This does not mean that I think you are a bad person - I'm sure you're a nice person and I do sincerely wish you all the best. But I do not think we are well suited, and so you are wasting your time.
Please do not contact me again.
Good luck in the future.
Fay
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Ooh - Aurelia, you're probably right. Brevity is SO not my default setting, but I think you're right. I'll chop it down to the bare bones.
that's great Fay. I don't think the third part is needed but it is very kind.
I think brevity will be your friend in this situation. It's much harder to argue with and read interpretations into.
Ngah! So I was brief like a brief thing, and he's sent me a little 'ok, sorry for bothering you' kind of reply that makes me feel like a rude bitch who kicked a puppy.
BUT, better this, with the clarity, than him being all 'hey, maybe she'll fancy me!' and me being all 'OMGWTFStalker!' and it going back and forth and back and forth. Right? Right?
...but, argh. Rudeness. Argh.
t /guilty
BUT, better this, with the clarity, than him being all 'hey, maybe she'll fancy me!' and me being all 'OMGWTFStalker!' and it going back and forth and back and forth. Right? Right?
Yes. Being brief and clear does not equal being rude.
On an upthread topic... my favorite Christmas song is Fairytale of New York by the Pogues.
oh for goodness sakes don't feel guilty. At the very least you've saved both of you a lot of wasted time.
Fairytale of New York by the Pogues.
I forgot about this one! I love this song and I haven't heard it yet this year.