I'm going with this:

Oh dear. I think I haven't been clear enough.

I don't want to meet you. I don't think we have anything in common. I don't think that we have the same interests or values. I am really not tempted to go on a date with you.

This does not mean that I think you are a bad person - I'm sure you're a nice person and I do sincerely wish you all the best. But I do not think we are well suited, and so you are wasting your time.

Please do not contact me again.

Good luck in the future.

Fay

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Ooh - Aurelia, you're probably right. Brevity is SO not my default setting, but I think you're right. I'll chop it down to the bare bones.

that's great Fay. I don't think the third part is needed but it is very kind.

I think brevity will be your friend in this situation. It's much harder to argue with and read interpretations into.

Ngah! So I was brief like a brief thing, and he's sent me a little 'ok, sorry for bothering you' kind of reply that makes me feel like a rude bitch who kicked a puppy.

BUT, better this, with the clarity, than him being all 'hey, maybe she'll fancy me!' and me being all 'OMGWTFStalker!' and it going back and forth and back and forth. Right? Right?

...but, argh. Rudeness. Argh.

t /guilty

BUT, better this, with the clarity, than him being all 'hey, maybe she'll fancy me!' and me being all 'OMGWTFStalker!' and it going back and forth and back and forth. Right? Right?

Yes. Being brief and clear does not equal being rude.

On an upthread topic... my favorite Christmas song is Fairytale of New York by the Pogues.

oh for goodness sakes don't feel guilty. At the very least you've saved both of you a lot of wasted time.

Fairytale of New York by the Pogues.

I forgot about this one! I love this song and I haven't heard it yet this year.

oh for goodness sakes don't feel guilty.

Laga, I'm English. I mean, almost painfully so. You know that bit with Eric Idle, in National Lampoon's European Vacation? Where they bump into him while walking, and he apologises, and then they run over him, and he apologises, etc etc etc? It's far too accurate, at least as far as I'm concerned. We apologise to people when they step on our feet, never mind when we've rejected their amorous advances.

Anyway, I'll stop wincing some time in the next hour or so, and focus on the nice (if less geographically convenient) people whom I've encountered & had some correspondence with via OKCupid instead of Mr NoCapitalLettersGuy.

Right. I should've made my suggested response "No thank you. Very sorry."

And I'm off... goodnight, all.

I'm more interested in finding fellow geeks who want to discuss 'Firefly' or 'Stargate Atlantis' or 'The Sandman' or TS Eliot.

Fay, if I fancied girls, I'd be licking you right now. With Daniel I get 3 of those 4, but we haven't had the Eliot discussion because I've had to block the T.S. love due to losing those books when I fled my mother's house.

This is bittersweet, bringing back part of myself that has been missing, and yet... it's missing. I'ma go add some of his stuff to my Amazon wishlist.