Oh, Kristin, good grief.

I've heard about the Gothy couple on TAR, but not seen an episode. From everything I've read, I would consider them part of My People. It seems like the TWOP people are badly informed as to the many different strains of the Goth subculture, and I would like them to stop Making Pronouncements about people's gothness when they obviously have no clue. And spell the poor boy's name correctly, dammit.

... why yes, I feel an entire rant about this coming on. Pity I have actual work to do today.

yay biz as usual. I think that kinda goes back to the whole "it's not fair" conversation we had. Works until your 12 y.o. After that, it's life people.

And I would like them to stop Making Pronouncements about people's gothness when they obviously have no clue. And spell the poor boy's name correctly, dammit.

Yes, and yes!

... why yes, I feel an entire rant about this coming on. Pity I have actual work to do today.

Noooooo! Dammit.

You might enjoy an episode of TAR, Jilli- I understand if reallity isn't your Thing, but the goth couple are fun and pretty decent racers, and it's all about going around the world, etc.

Ok - I need some hairpats and validation from my friends, even though I know I'm being a spectacular brat.

My mother has decided that, in the face of her grief for the loss of my grandmother, to not host nor attend any Thanksgiving festivities.

She *just* told me.

I know in my heart that if this is what she needs to do to deal, then ok. I get that. Well, I get it as much as I can because hello? dealing with the same loss. The woman might not have given birth to me, but my grandmother was, in many ways, more my mother than the woman who had me.

What hurts so much is that once again, she is failing to see how other people (me) might need her to do for us as well as us do for her. I shouldn't expect that from her considering that she has NEVER done for me in any sort of emotional turmoil and upheaval, but for fuck's sake, I moved 2500 miles to be close to family for, among other reasons, HOLIDAYS.

Part of me is very understanding. The other part of me wants to tell her to suck it up for the sake of her granddaughter, if no one else, and to stop being so goddamned insular.

Everytime it seems I get a little more accepting that here is home, family pulls some shit like this and then I think, "Fuck it. I am, in the words of some rap artist, going back to Cali." Because that family? NEVER let me down.

kicks wall really really hard

Oh, Aimee. I'm sorry, hon. Many hairpats, snorgles, and shots of Fernet for you. You're not being a brat, actually - I think you have every right to be upset.

t hugs the heck out of Aimee

I'm so sorry, love. That just sucks. I wish I could teleport the three of you here to eat my first attempt at a Thanksgiving turkey (though maybe missing my first turkey isn't such a bad thing).

Do you have room at your place to host a little one for your family, or is that not a possibility?

Aw, Aimee. hairpat

The trouble with the chosen vs. biological family comparison is, well, the choosing part. Chosen family is generally formed as an adult, and it doesn't involve the same level of button pushing as the bio-fam does.

Bio-fam stuff is just SO VERY crazymaking and I'm sorry that your mom is disappointing you. Especially in the face of the reasons of your move.

My unsolicited two cents: let her do what she needs to do, accept what she says and carry on. I don't know your mom, so this is just my own suspicions of human behavior, but I suspect there might be some fishing for people falling apart at the thought of having Thanksgiving without her.

thinks

more hairpats

You're not being a brat, actually - I think you have every right to be upset.

Juliana is wise. (Says the girl who decided not to host the usual big Thanksgiving for this year.) But no, you are not being a brat at all.

Do you have room at your place to host a little one for your family, or is that not a possibility?

We totally could. We have the space and the ability. We're gonna go to Joe's dad's for dinner.

You're not being a brat, actually - I think you have every right to be upset.

Thanks, bebe. I totally feel like one.

I don't know your mom, so this is just my own suspicions of human behavior, but I suspect there might be some fishing for people falling apart at the thought of having Thanksgiving without her.

ding ding ding

My mother put the Drama Que in Drama Queen. I come by it honestly. On the phone just now she told me and I said, "Oh. Ok. Fine." We'll go to Joe's dad's house and hang with them and it'll be fine.