Do you have room at your place to host a little one for your family, or is that not a possibility?
We totally could. We have the space and the ability. We're gonna go to Joe's dad's for dinner.
You're not being a brat, actually - I think you have every right to be upset.
Thanks, bebe. I totally feel like one.
I don't know your mom, so this is just my own suspicions of human behavior, but I suspect there might be some fishing for people falling apart at the thought of having Thanksgiving without her.
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My mother put the Drama Que in Drama Queen. I come by it honestly. On the phone just now she told me and I said, "Oh. Ok. Fine." We'll go to Joe's dad's house and hang with them and it'll be fine.
My mother has decided that in the face of her grief for the loss of my grandmother to not host nor attend any Thanksgiving festivities.
Not hosting makes sense. Announcing she won't attend seems, um, melodramatic.
What hurts so much is that once again, she is failing to see how other people (me) might need her to do for us as well as us do for her. I shouldn't expect that from her considering that she has NEVER done for me in any sort of emotional turmoil and upheaval, but for fuck's sake, I moved 2500 miles to be close to family for, among other reasons, HOLIDAYS.
And that is WHY your Grandmother was, in many ways, more your mother than the woman who had you.
You host beautiful parties. Full of love. And because of that Em can still be with her family. I know this will be hard if you host -- maybe even harder than having 20 people over when you were 10 months pregnant -- but maybe that is something you WANT to do.
Welcome yourself back to Michigan by surrounding yourselves with that family you came home to. And tell your Mom that if she feels up to it when things have quieted down she should come by for some pie.
It's a shame you have to be the grown up -- but not as big a shame as when you were a child.
::snuggles Empress::
And you make a wonderful grown up
{{Aimee}} sorry mom can't see past her pain. and Like your grandmother would have wanted her daughter to hide in cave. It would be good if she came to a compromise. Like come for dessert.
Kristin- bad situations are making reasonable people want to throw tantrums - I wish you extra patience.
{{{Aimee}}} I'm so sorry. The holidays can be such a difficult subject after a loss. Is it possible for you to have Thanksgiving at your place with your mother helping out with some of the food purchases, so that the cost isn't all on you? Maybe a change of venue will make it easier on your mother this year.
Going to Joe's Dad's! That'll be lovely.
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Whoo! What do I win?
Also, just wanted to say additionally, I don't think you're a brat for being upset. That's upsetting behavior. It's hard.
Is it possible for you to have Thanksgiving at your place with your mother helping out with some of the food purchases, so that the cost isn't all on you? Maybe a change of venue will make it easier on your mother this year.
I offered to host a couple of weeks ago and she said that she needed the activity of cooking to help distract her from grandma's absence. She declared herself going to her cabin for the entire weekend so she can "deal with this".
Thank you guys so much. Truly. I know I've been Mopey McDownster more often than not the past few months, but thank you guys for hanging with me and not asking me to get banned or MARCIE-ing me.
Oops, look at that. I talked about the MARCIE.
Fuck. Did it again.
Now I have to talk about Fight Club.
Shit.
No wonder no one told me who really shot Kennedy.
Well, at least I am fairly sure that it will bug you more than Em. I have big general memories of thanksgiving- with snapshot memories of specific things that happened. and the reasons that thanksgiving is my favorite holiday is because I have such strong memories of the good stuff. any of the bad stuff is unimportant - just people being people.
