Thanks Chikat and Susan. Much appreciated.
Gunn: We open a can of Machiavelli on his ass. Harmony: It's Matchabelli, Einstein, and it doesn't come in a can.
'Soul Purpose'
Spike's Bitches 38: Well, This Is Just...Neat.
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
beekaytee - Nov 03, 2007 8:33:40 am PDT #2378 of 10002
Compassionately intolerant
Laga - Nov 03, 2007 8:35:51 am PDT #2379 of 10002
You should know I'm a big deal in the Resistance.
X-posty with Kristin: some guys aren't insecure, just very very monogamous. The idea of the one they love being with someone else is unacceptable to them.
Strix - Nov 03, 2007 8:39:11 am PDT #2380 of 10002
A dress should be tight enough to show you're a woman but loose enough to flee from zombies. — Ginger
what kind of straight guy won't consider a girl girl boy threesome?
He's not very sexual. Which is the weakest part of their relationship, IMHO, because she is extremely sexual. I like him, I think he's a good match for her in many ways, but...I have reservations about the long-term viability of their relationship on this level.
Not, I hasten to add, because I see sex as the end-all and be-all of a relationship, but because I know when one person attaches importance to a thing as part of their general life satisfaction and happiness and health, and the other person doesn't or can't, it can lead to frustration and imbalance. Whether this thing be sexual fulfillment, or religious faith, or...um...cilantro.
Pix - Nov 03, 2007 8:42:48 am PDT #2381 of 10002
We're all getting played with, babe. -Weird Barbie
He's not very sexual. Which is the weakest part of their relationship, IMHO, because she is extremely sexual. I like him, I think he's a good match for her in many ways, but...I have reservations about the long-term viability of their relationship on this level.Wow, that's eerie. I had this exact conversation with someone before I got married. Also, DexH was definitely mainly very monogamous rather than insecure.
Anyway. In the past.
Laga, did you see Fay's question to you? I'm sure you were using the plural/general "you," right?
Laga - Nov 03, 2007 8:43:23 am PDT #2382 of 10002
You should know I'm a big deal in the Resistance.
Please tell me no marriage was ever broken up by cilantro. I left onions out of my cooking for years just to make my sister happy.
I have the sudden urge to make tacos with chopped onions and cilantro.
Laga - Nov 03, 2007 8:47:02 am PDT #2383 of 10002
You should know I'm a big deal in the Resistance.
Totally missed this:
...this wasn't addressed to me, was it?
no, the general "you". I'd had the idea floating around in my head since the first time I saw someone say something like, "I like the idea of a poly relationship but I don't think I could do it." It took a couple of glasses of Pinot Noir for me to squeeze out the post.
Strix - Nov 03, 2007 8:51:04 am PDT #2384 of 10002
A dress should be tight enough to show you're a woman but loose enough to flee from zombies. — Ginger
Please tell me no marriage was ever broken up by cilantro.
Sorry, babe, a Google search finds that 3/5 American marriages are adversely impacted by a couple's differing views on cilantro.
Republican legislators are currently pursuing the passing of a bill that "outlaws that pernicious herb, cilantro, as being basically inimical to the family values our country hold dear" reports Ida Fo-Journalistte in the Washington Post.
ChiKat - Nov 03, 2007 8:54:07 am PDT #2385 of 10002
That man was going to shank me. Over an omelette. Two eggs and a slice of government cheese. Is that what my life is worth?
some guys aren't insecure, just very very monogamous. The idea of the one they love being with someone else is unacceptable to them.
This is me. Except for the part about being a guy. I am mono and don't view that as insecurity.
Trudy Booth - Nov 03, 2007 9:44:29 am PDT #2386 of 10002
Greece's financial crisis threatens to take down all of Western civilization - a civilization they themselves founded. A rather tragic irony - which is something they also invented. - Jon Stewart
Yeah, I don't think we need to start tossing around words like "insecurity". So far everybody has stayed nice.
Pix - Nov 03, 2007 10:14:54 am PDT #2387 of 10002
We're all getting played with, babe. -Weird Barbie
If I read right, Laga had already modified her stance on that, I think for that reason. I agree that insecurity is a loaded word.