Noise, I agree with you 100%. But the definition of a polyamorus relationship that has been given seems to make a lot of people who don't orient themselves a poly, poly.

How if they don't consider themselves oriented that way?

Orientation wasn't part of the initial definition.

Orientation wasn't part of the initial definition.

That's the reason I was bringing it up, I consider it a pretty important part of the definition.

t pulls up crankypants

I pretty much just hate labels. I was "straight" in the past, then "bi" when started messing with girls, and now in a long-term gay relationship. So what does that make me? Bi? Gay? Frankly, I don't care.

Not to downplay my very good point, but there are closeted people who wouldn't consider themselves gay, but I do-or at least bi.

Yeah, the Senator Craig thing.

That's the problem with respecting self-definition -- sometimes people do it stupidly and annoy the crap out of you.

You're Glam! Of course.

(gets in GC's crankypants)

(okay, that came out... heh.)

Hello, I'm GlamGayBiUndecidedCookie!

Willow is problematic. Perhaps Oz broke her heart so thoroughly that she could never love a guy again.

To change the subject completely. When the heck did "monitize" become a word?

I'm with you GC, I mostly say you are whatever you say you are* It matters not to me unless I'm going to be sleeping with you.

• Unless there are outside social pressures saying whatever you are is wrong and you therefore feel the need to claim an identity which is not yours even though you aren't hurting anybody, because that's whack yo!

Probably at the same time toilet paper became bathroom tissue.

When the heck did "monitize" become a word?

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