I'm more basing my definition of Poly on intentions, not neccessarily actions. Meaning, I love my friend Chris. If he and I were to find ourselves not married, we would probably be together. But I don't intend to have sex with him. It doesn't change my level of feelings for him, nor his for me, nor ours for our spouses, but I wouldn't say that either of us were Poly.

Does that make sense?

Yes it does, but take this in the case of being bisexual again. If a bisexual man ends up in a relationship with a woman, he doesn't cease being bisexual. If he's monogamous then he won't be having sex with other men, or have the intent to have sex with other men, but he is still bisexual.

Yeah, I think we were defining the nature of poly relationships.

If someone says they're Poly or Bi or Gay or whatever you just say "ok" because they're really the only person who could possibly make that call. I don't think anyone here disagrees with that.

Noise, I agree with you 100%. But the definition of a polyamorus relationship that has been given seems to make a lot of people who don't orient themselves a poly, poly.

I don't deny that poly is an orientation or that someone who orients themself as poly isn't if they aren't in any relationship(s).

If someone says they're Poly or Bi or Gay or whatever you just say "ok" because they're really the only person who could possibly make that call.

Unless they're Willow. (Sorry, still a bit of a sore topic for this bi?/gay? girl.)

Also having a SHITTY day. Pity me, pat my hair.

Noise, I agree with you 100%. But the definition of a polyamorus relationship that has been given seems to make a lot of people who don't orient themselves a poly, poly.

How if they don't consider themselves oriented that way?

Unless they're Willow. (Sorry, still a bit of a sore topic for this bi?/gay? girl.)

She says she's a lesbian, Imma believe her.

How if they don't consider themselves oriented that way?

Good point.

I have nothing to back to myself up with because you have a good point.

I'ma sit back here and watch your good point.

Noise, I agree with you 100%. But the definition of a polyamorus relationship that has been given seems to make a lot of people who don't orient themselves a poly, poly.

The point being that if I'm not poly, then those relationships aren't poly. If I'm not homosexual and I have close friendships with homosexual men, that doesn't make them homosexual relationships.

eta looks like I just had a x-post with DJ.

Not to downplay my very good point, but there are closeted people who wouldn't consider themselves gay, but I do-or at least bi.

She says she's a lesbian, Imma believe her.

Yeah, me too. There was lots of discussions at the time of her "Gay now" declaration about how she was "actually bi." Bugged.