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Spike ,'Sleeper'


Spike's Bitches 37: You take the killing for granted.  

[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.


Burrell - Oct 07, 2007 7:32:55 pm PDT #8887 of 10001
Why did Darth Vader cross the road? To get to the Dark Side!

Is Annabel really wearing 4Ts already? How old is she? I thought she was 3.

I don't know why I'm surprised, I guess because Franny just in the past couple months outgrew all her 3T pants and shirts and now wears 4T almost exclusively. The 4Ts seem so big for a 3 yo, especially the pants. But Franny's BF wore 4Ts by the time she was 3 and now that she's 4 she wears 5Ts almost exclusively. Her friend just has a much bigger build than Franny, she's at least 10 pounds heavier and maybe 1 inch taller. Annabel must be a tall kid.


BigDuluth - Oct 07, 2007 8:11:05 pm PDT #8888 of 10001
"I am the all-singing, all-dancing crap of the world"

Susan W. - Oct 07, 2007 8:12:46 pm PDT #8889 of 10001
Good Trouble and Righteous Fights

Annabel is exactly 3 1/2 as of yesterday. She can still wear some 3Ts, but most of the pants are too short and the shirts are tight. She's tall for her age, and also broad-shouldered and sturdy-looking. This picture is a couple of months old, but gives a good sense of how big she's getting.


Susan W. - Oct 07, 2007 8:15:10 pm PDT #8890 of 10001
Good Trouble and Righteous Fights

I bet a local town librarian would love to help you.

I think I'm going to draft the scene first, and then send an email to the info address saying I have some questions for a town librarian or someone in the historical society or something along those lines.


omnis_audis - Oct 07, 2007 8:15:10 pm PDT #8891 of 10001
omnis, pursue. That's an order from a shy woman who can use M-16. - Shir

Laga, it's a start. I agree, he's not one for words, so it doesn't surprise me that it's cc'd to everyone. I'd say every time he is acting asshat like, to say, "Hey, you were wanting help in not being an asshat. part of that is knowing when you are. Guess what. Right now, you are!"

OK, I'm at work now. Yup. @ 22:00. Yup. Still lacking motivation. Amazed I got here.

Happy b-day JenP!!!

(oo, and here comes yet ANOTHER song about clowns being sent in)


meara - Oct 07, 2007 8:27:09 pm PDT #8892 of 10001

GRIS! Hi! Missed you! I watched the first ep of Gossip Girl, but the whole moving thing means I missed last week. The friend out here who watches ANTM warned me that the group she watches with has been doing Gossip Girl as well, so I don't know that I love it, but I'll be watching!


WindSparrow - Oct 07, 2007 8:29:15 pm PDT #8893 of 10001
Love is stronger than death and harder than sorrow. Those who practice it are fierce like the light of stars traveling eons to pierce the night.

I'd say every time he is acting asshat like, to say, "Hey, you were wanting help in not being an asshat. part of that is knowing when you are. Guess what. Right now, you are!"

I'm wondering iif t is possible to offer a conditional acceptance of the apology - that condition being he has to listen without getting angry, to that kind of prompt. I mean, working with developmentally disabled adults, I experience all kinds of bad behavior - intentional and otherwise. Not that I'm likening this guy to persons with mental retardation, but he has obviously exhibited delays in developing social skills. One of the things we say to the residents is "Please don't ____: It's not appropriate." It's said in a neutral tone of voice rather than arch or prim or shocked, and it gets pretty decent results. If your family can discuss this with the asschapeau delightful personage in question openly, perhaps you could negotiate a phrase that you can all use, that will help him to reevaluate his behavior, without getting defensive. There is always the "When you ____, I feel ____," formula. Of course, it's not easy to use that when you have no confidence in how it will be received and acted on - but again, if he really means the words of his apology, then this is something that can be negotiated.


Burrell - Oct 07, 2007 8:41:28 pm PDT #8894 of 10001
Why did Darth Vader cross the road? To get to the Dark Side!

Annabel is becoming such a little girl! She does have a bigger build than Franny, she's more like her BF.


Cashmere - Oct 07, 2007 9:10:55 pm PDT #8895 of 10001
Now tagless for your comfort.

Laga, how could he not realize that you'd probably share that email with your family members who got the identical apology? The mind boggles. But still, I'd say an apology might be a teeny, weeny baby step in the right direction.

Owen'll be 3 1/2 on Thursday and he's still in some 2 Ts. The pants are now a shade too short but some 3 Ts are still too big for him.

Liv can still wear some 12-18 month stuff and she's just at 20 months.

I have to go by weight on childrens' clothes because the sizing is freakishly different from brand to brand.

I never figured I'd have teeny kids but my perspective is sort of skewed. I try to remember that I didn't start to outpace my peers in size until I was an adult and was a pretty scrawny kid. DH and I neither are very tall.

My sleep is so fucked. Insomnia stalks me every night because I keep thinking of house issues.


d - Oct 07, 2007 9:17:38 pm PDT #8896 of 10001
It's nice to see some brave pretenders trying to make it interesting.

Oh dear, Cashmere. Hope that gets settled for you pretty quickly so sleep can return.

I am a doofus and misread the photo scavenger rules for the deadline. And then I posted, but not where everyone else did. I'm not an lj user, so I'm inept with it, but some of my photos were fun. Anybody here want to see? [link]