Although the "corset" play piercings look SO cool. I think I'd try *that.*
Yeah, that's kind of appealing. Huh.
Plus, endorphin rush = YAY.
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
Although the "corset" play piercings look SO cool. I think I'd try *that.*
Yeah, that's kind of appealing. Huh.
Plus, endorphin rush = YAY.
Two years I think.
It was when I was interviewing at Bennington right? Then three. Still, multiple apartments and cities ago.
The first was the letter-writer whose sister had insisted on bringing her slave, dressed in full slave gear, to the family Thanksgiving dinner (they had a formal written contract and he lived in a dungeon room in her basement)
See, shit like that pisses me off. One of the biggest tenets of kink is that it has to be consensual. And the thing is, that's not limited to the 2 (or more) partners -- if you're bringing your slave, in collar, etc., to your non-kinky family's holiday dinner, and they (1) don't know you're going to do so, and/or (2) would prefer that your slave wear jeans and a sweater, then that is you, the "Master," VERY MUCH non-consensually dragging your family into your kink. And that's just selfish and egotistical and wrong.
Ahem. When did I climb up on this soapbox? I can see my house from up here!
(And the second thing, the one JZ kindly whitefonted -- YIKES! Unsanitary! UNSANITARY!)
Three? Dude.
Three? Dude.
You guys got to see my brother's restaurant (as did Nora and Tom) about a year before *I* ever did!
See, shit like that pisses me off. One of the biggest tenets of kink is that it has to be consensual. And the thing is, that's not limited to the 2 (or more) partners -- if you're bringing your slave, in collar, etc., to your non-kinky family's holiday dinner, that is VERY MUCH non-consensual on your family's part. And that's just selfish and egotistical and wrong.
agreed. Being fairly vanilla myself, I'm also extremely open minded (most of my friends are kinky!) I wouldn't have a problem if one of my friends wanted to bring a slave to dinner, but ONLY if all of the other guests were okay with it. I might mention that if they wanted the slave to do the dishes, that would be okay with me.
Teppy, doesn't sound soapboxy to me. Very sensible, actually. Though I'd have less sympathy for the family if slave had gone in "civvies" as an ordinary guest. (Or are such things not done in the master-slave world? I'm no expert.)
I am bitter that I have neither Vortex nor Aimee for FSF rampaging.
However - bonny, that's really cool that you're a safe space for your young friend.
Yeah, that was pretty much Dan's take on it, Tep. With a side of personally pissed off, because apparently the sister got all huffy when her parents timidly objected, and went off on a rant about how if she were lesbian they'd feel honor-bound to accept her partner at family gatherings, and since this was her sexual identity they should have the same obligation toward her slave, or else they were oppressive and kinkophobic: to which Dan delivered a lovely little "Please stop being on my side" counter-rant.
eta: Fred, my (admittedly vague) memory of the letter was that the slave was there in full slave mode, "Yes mistress, no mistress, may I please mistress?" and sitting on the floor while everyone else was in chairs and all the rest.
Wow, so, there was a time when bitches was super kinky? Man, I came into b.org too late. Tho today's talk has been fun :)
I'm vanilla, more from lack of opportunity than anything. Not to say ND hasn't made me blush or stand there mouth a-gape thinking "did he just say wha???" ;)
I bet a bunch of you pervy types are secretly closet celebates who subscribe to Self-Denial Now and who practice cold showers every morning while contemplating the purity of nothingness.Closet celibates? No. More like accidental celibate. Ick on the cold shower. Blah!
He is in a private room now, out of the ICU. He is depressed and pissy, but physically doing pretty well. There hasn't been any fallout after the surgery, which was the big concern. We are going over there tonight after work to see him. Thanks for asking :)
good to hear. Let us know if there is anything you need help with. I think I'm down the freeway from ya. {{continued ~ma}}