I would be there right now.

Simon ,'Objects In Space'


Bureaucracy 4: Like Job. No, really, just like Job

A thread to discuss naming threads, board policy, new thread suggestions, and anything else that has to do with board administration and maintenance. Guaranteed to include lively debate and polls. Natter discouraged, but not deleted.

Current Stompy Feet: Jon B, P.M. Marcontell, Liese S., amych, msbelle, shrift, Dana, Laura

Stompy Emerita: ita, DXMachina


javachik - Dec 21, 2020 4:02:00 pm PST #6618 of 6786
Our wings are not tired.

I’m having a thought as I’ve been reading these threads for weeks (and never saw the deleted offending posts until Cindy was able to grab them from the magic machine), and that is that in my experience, people are open to learning more easily by reading discourse on a subject rather than being confronted personally by it.

I don’t know a single person who learned immediately by being yelled at or feeling cornered into change (I’m aware no one yelled at Laura or Katie B, and I think SJ was right to speak up, and am not litigating that aspect); rather the growth that usually takes place is over time, and allowed space for a person to “get it” so that it’s a choice rather than a surrender.

The reason I say this, is that at first the idea of a separate thread seemed like a poor idea, but reading back on the last several posts here between Glam and Hec? That kind of discussion can be very useful for others to read, contemplate, reflect on, and absorb. All in a way where you don’t actually have to screw up and be called on it (and thus not be in the most receiving mindset) in order to learn.

For example, if we opened up such a thread and called it “examinations on evolving” or something (that is a terrible title! But it’s the connotation I’m going for), I could totally go there and say “hey! I used to love this joke as a kid that Joan Rivers would tell and now I realize that it’s racist even though I never in a million years thought it was before. But I asked one of my Chinese friends about and she says it is. And also it’s fat phobic. Way to go, Joan Rivers, and way to go me for not realizing that on my own for like 30 years.” No one would need to be confronted, but I could relay an embarrassing little anecdote and folks could passively learn from my experience being a jackass.

I don’t think an extensive rewrite of the etiquette policies are needed. This isn’t a troll situation. And Cindy’s right; these are al friends. And we love each other and don’t want to hurt each other. And sometimes we hurt each other anyway, and need to learn that and apologize. I think that can happen, but it can’t be forced or legislated.

And I appreciate everyone who’s taken the time and been patient with the situation. It’s clear you care very much. ETA: I just realized lightbulbs is closed on the thread idea. I guess it stays in Natter thread. I just know lots of folks don’t go into the Natter threads (I do a occasionally but not often) and maybe wouldn’t read the language discussions, but that’s probably fine.


Glamcookie - Dec 21, 2020 7:10:55 pm PST #6619 of 6786
I know my own heart and understand my fellow man. But I am made unlike anyone I have ever met. I dare to say I am like no one in the whole world. - Anne Lister

FWIW, I envisioned the thread exactly as you describe if, javachik. Not a “call out” thread, but an educational thread for all of us.


JenP - Dec 21, 2020 7:24:24 pm PST #6620 of 6786

That's definitely how you presented it, Glam.

Is the consensus to add a paragraph at the beginning of Etiquette? Anyone want to volunteer to draft it?


DavidS - Dec 21, 2020 8:42:10 pm PST #6621 of 6786
"Look, son, if it's good enough for Shirley Bassey, it's good enough for you."

Is the consensus to add a paragraph at the beginning of Etiquette?

Yes, I think so.


javachik - Dec 21, 2020 9:08:27 pm PST #6622 of 6786
Our wings are not tired.

FWIW, I envisioned the thread exactly as you describe if, javachik. Not a “call out” thread, but an educational thread for all of us.

That’s great. I mean, I know it’s a moot point now, but wanted you to know.


Jessica - Dec 22, 2020 7:06:17 am PST #6623 of 6786
If I want to become a cloud of bats, does each bat need a separate vaccination?

I don't want to add work to Gud's plate, but I think the first step needs to be migrating the FAQ/Etiquette pages from the old board over to this version?


Topic!Cindy - Dec 22, 2020 7:30:15 am PST #6624 of 6786
What is even happening?

I agree, Jess. I think we need to ask Gud to please prioritize adding the FAQ, Site Etiquette, and Law-Speak pages linked in the left-hand sidebar.


Jesse - Dec 22, 2020 7:33:06 am PST #6625 of 6786
Sometimes I trip on how happy we could be.

I would suggest archiving most of the FAQ, and repurposing some into a how-to page, or just leave it to the quick-edit page linked above the posting box.


Tom Scola - Dec 22, 2020 7:44:48 am PST #6626 of 6786
Mr. Scola’s wardrobe by Botany 500

I think Gud might have mentioned something about mods being able to upload files themselves?


Topic!Cindy - Dec 22, 2020 7:48:51 am PST #6627 of 6786
What is even happening?

On the old site , the lefthand sidebar had these links (if you weren't logged in):

Buffistas Home

Buffista FAQ
Board how-to
Site etiquette
Buffista Map
About this site
E-mail Admins

If you were logged in, I think you also saw Read New, Message Center, Profile, and Bookmarks links.

Wayback machine archive from October 27, 2020: [link]

We could ask Gud if this is something people could help with. It may not be complicated to create a page and populate it with content we've already written -- just time consuming.

Also, just as housekeeping: can any of the Stompies move closed threads to the closed thread folders?

I think DX used to handle that task. The Natter 76 and the 2019 Goodbye/Good Riddance threads need to move.